Help!! A friend of mine (who happens to be male) offered to help me pay for a lawyer to get full custody and child support from my alcoholic husband. This is a guy whom I have known for years, who knows my perdiciment and knows what a good mother I am. I also know that he is interested in me. I, on the otherhand have no interest in him, other than friendship. I am in dire need of the money. My question is should I take him up on his offer? Maybe make a paper contract stating that I will give him such and such money every week or month. At a loss here, need advice..thanks in advance..
2006-10-23 06:44:38 · 10 answers · asked by Erin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only take the money with a contract. He wants to help because he thinks you will feel so indebted to him that you will fall in love with him.
Make sure he knows that you do not want a relationship beyond friendship.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-23 06:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not take the money unless you make it very clear to him that you only like him as a friend. if you do take the money take them as a no interest loan that you will pay back. Try searching on the net for a organizations that offer a free legal service to families in which one of the spouses is alcoholic.
2006-10-23 14:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by Vicki Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him how you feel and..if he still wants to help take the money and print up a contract that says you will pay him back a certain amount at a certain time and have it notatrized. but dont take the money with out letting him know how you feel cause you dont want him to think you are trying to use him.
2006-10-23 13:56:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be fine as long as you also make sure he knows this will not change anything between the two of you!
Have you spoke to an attorney yet? Usually you get a free consultation and you may be able to put in the divorce papers that your husband has to pay your attorney's fees as well as his. Then you wouldn't need to borrow the money. Best wishes hope it goes smooth for you!
2006-10-23 13:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is just one terrific person and sees that you don't have the money to pay for divorce. He didn't say he wanted to be paid back, unless he ask don't hurt his feelings. I think you got one great friend, I only wish they made more good men like he is. You may be reading into this all wrong, he hasn't ask you to start to dating him. Thank him and thank God that he sent someone to you that it is truly a angel.
2006-10-23 14:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need to set thing strait before taken the money
and also have a paper draw as well notories if you should decide to take it
Good luck
2006-10-23 13:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, sorry to hear about the state you are in.
Tell him frankly how you felt about him. Then tell him to reconsider lending money to you. If he treats you like a friend, then he can make you a second offer to lend you the money.
As for financial assistance, you can also seek help from legal aid bureau.
All the best.
2006-10-23 13:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by tanyongheng 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consider a loan , and let him know your appreciative but ....its just a loan. yes ,a mutal contract signed by both of you makes it a legal bussiness deal
2006-10-23 13:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make SURE you pay him back, even if it's only a dollar a day...
He wants you to owe him. Trust me on this.
2006-10-23 13:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend will walk with you with your problems and be there for you. It sounds like you have a true friend there. Maybe he wants to pay to have this done so that you no longer have to be unhappy. Just be up front and honest with him that you don't want a relationship from him other than his friendship.
2006-10-23 13:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by sweetdreamin96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋