Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 3 years now. in the past 3 months she's been away at school. about a month ago she wanted to go take a break becuase of all the fighting we were doing. 4 days later she called me and told me she kissed another guy and realized i was the only person she ever wants to kiss and be with. she came home that weekend and everything was back to normal. she goes back to school and everything started to go downhill. fights were started by both of us. she stayed at school that weekend abd came back next weekend. i wanted her to come back that weekend. but i made plans that friday night. i called her and told her not to come down that day and she blew up at me and told me she was already here and that she was going to surprise me saturday morning. well saturday i took her out for a surprise dinner. and everything was back to normal. 5 days later i found out that shes been dating a frat guy that asked her out to a formal on sweetest day. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2006-10-23 06:39:05 · 14 answers · asked by Snop 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Remember the song, "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with." That's your life story with this girl right now and I guess you have to decide if she's worth it.
2006-10-23 06:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to end it. It's perfectly normal for this to happen and it's going to be a lot easier on both of you mentally if you just break it off until she's done with school. When she's done, or moves back if you both still have that "thing" for each other then you can start over and be fresh and have all those other things out of your system so it'll be a better relationship for settling down...if that's what you want. Best of luck...it sucks, I know...been there done that. We made it luckily though and have been together for 8 years now, recently married and had a baby.
2006-10-23 06:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girl can't make up her mind. She is a slut. She is taking you for a wild roller coaster ride. I think you both need to mature. By that I mean learning to communicate more effectively and not arguing all the time.
At this point in your relationship, you need to move on. She is not someone who sounds very loyal. You sound like you are young, so just have fun with it. Don't take your relationships very seriously until you are ready to get married. When that time comes, you should be more mature and know what exactly you want in a partner. Each girl you have until then will allow you to pinpoint what exactly makes you happy and what doesn't. But remember, nobody is perfect.
2006-10-23 06:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by losangelesmoons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should break up with her, she's treating you wrong and you don't deserve this. She's obviously been dating the frat guy and fooling around with the guy she kissed if you just found out about it. There is someone better out there for you, just search for what you want in a woman and find her, let this girl GO! Good Luck!
2006-10-23 06:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would break up until she's through school. That way you can both date others and see if the relationship you have is the real thing. Dating shouldn't consist of so many fights and arguments. Sometimes letting go makes the relationship better, sometimes it ends the relationship. But it's better to know now than after you're married and one of you decides to recapture your youth.
2006-10-23 06:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should realize that this relationship is over and move on. It looks like she's been better-timing you since she started school. She also appears not to be adult enough to just end your relationship. What’s more, you seem to be encouraging such behavior by taking her back every time she comes home, even after it became obvious that she's dating others. Her getting angry at you when you had other plans also screams manipulation! Stand up for yourself and tell her goodbye – if not for you, for her future boyfriends by showing her that she can’t get away with her self-centered behavior.
2006-10-23 06:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by Celt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, YOU HAVE BEEN DATING THIS GIRL FOR A LONG TIME AND IT SEEMS LIKE ITS MORE OF THE ATTATCHMENT THAT IS KEEPING YOU TWO TOGETHER.SHE WANTA HER CAKE AND EAT IT TOO. SHE DOES NOT KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS BECAUSE SHE IS GOING BACK AND FORTH WITH DIFFERENT EMOTIONS. SHE WANTS TO EXPERIMENT BUT YET HOLD ON TO YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE CONSIDERED SAFE. IF SHE CAN GET AWAY WITH ANYTHING SHE WILL BECAUSE SHE HAS THAT TEMPTATION AND YOUR NOT GOING TO BE AROUND TO STOP HER. DONT LET THIS GET TO FAR. YOU NEED TO GET OUT AND DO YOUR OWN THING AND STAY AWAY FROM HER. GIVE HER A TASTE OF HER OWN AND SEE HOW SHE REACTS BUT DONT PLAY GAMES. CALL A QUITS. IT IS TIME
2006-10-23 07:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by louise23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone and don't look back if she's up and down like that then just leave it alone. The world's full of girls and if the girl's not worth it then move on. Sorry if this sounds cheesy but I don't want to disrespect your feelings for this female by saying something like f*** that b****.
2006-10-23 07:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by SLASHER3000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the two of you have been through a lot. I think it's time you break up with her and find someone else. There are plenty more women out there.
2006-10-23 06:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old saying "if you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it is yours forever. If not, it never was
2006-10-23 08:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋