2006-10-23 06:38:51 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There really is no need to lie in a good relationship. You don't have to cover your tracks when you tell the truth and then hopefully you won't forget what you told your partner in the the years to come.
However sometimes it's better to let sleeping dogs lie.
Ask yourself this 'Is it going to affect the relationship if it isn't said and is found out'? Be honest with yourself, does your partner care about it? Personal experience so far, don't lie when asked questions.
2006-10-23 06:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by honeb1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult one to consider in certain circumstances that could cause someone close to you some considerable hurt and pain if you were to revel something that would effect them personally or effect your whole relationship.
While I would probably to tend to err on caution and the "its best to leave some things unsaid" scenario, in reality the truth has a way of revealing itself even if its several years later.
If that happens through other means, other than your own revelation, this often causes an even greater hurt and grief to the person because they find you could not be truthful to them in the first place and the reality is that, you have somewhat played a life of pretence with them, however long that may be, because you didn't reveal the truth in the first place.
Life's experience and the experience's of others has taught me that you should always tell the truth even although it can be a truth that will he hard for the other person to take. Being an adult is about dealing with the consequences of a situation and being open and honest in discussion
Bear in mind, life goes on and people do recover given time, no matter how bad the news that was given to them was and a lot worse can happen in life sometimes but people tend to forget that.
Remember theres no hurt too great to be healed given time, and Its always better to be honest about something than being coy and dishonest, just to cover your own conscience.
2006-10-24 00:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things actually are better left unsaid. If it doesn't contribute to the health of the relationship, zip it up. Let's say you go out of town on business, get sauced up and do a male stripper. One night deal, you regret it and you will never do it again. In fact, you're seriously thinking about rehab. Would you tell your SO? H*ll no! What's the point? You may unburden your conscious, but at what price? Also, there may be things about your past that like you use to host orgies in your dorm or something, or you had an abusive step father who got killed in a bar fight, or any number of scenarios. But your SO knowing really serves no purpose. So you see some things just need not be divulged, period. I subscribe to the need to know basis theory. Unless the person absolutely needs to know say nothing. It doesn't matter how close the relationship.
2006-10-23 06:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by inquiringmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things best left unsaid.
If you are asking if you should reveal that you had an affair xx years ago. DON'T tell. If they haven't all ready found out they probably never will.
All you will be doing is unburdening your conscience by shovelling a whole load of s*h*it on them.
Don't do it.
Or when they annoy you so much that you feel like what comes from a baboons behind is more sensitive caring and intelligent than they are, don't say it
Or if you hate your in-laws. Don't blurt it out.
Beyond that. Honesty is the best policy.
2006-10-25 10:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is very important in a relationship, BUT, yeah, it's safe to leave some things left "unsaid"! Why? Because in an argument they'll always throw it in your face about something you did
years ago!!!! Let it go!
2006-10-23 06:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things are definitely better left unsaid. Just think of the consequences ...
2006-10-23 20:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are things that needs to be left unsaid. In a way its like holding on to that part of you that may be avery important aspect of your life. If things dont work out it will help make you feel that you haven't given all of you.
2006-10-23 07:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by sphinx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bit of a vague question, depends what you mean. If you mean absoloutley everything then Yes, some things are best left unsaid.
I got skeletons in my closet. Things ive done in past that i wish i could take back. I just want to 4get about them - not share them with my loved ones.
2006-10-23 06:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty starts with the mind. Reaching your lips (i.e speaking about it) follows thereafter.
If you truly love your partner, you'd be honest to her even without her knowledge. You wouldn't do things that you can't discuss. If you STILL think it is right, then have the courage to speak and convince her....but don't lie.
A lie catches up with you one day...and that day you'd wish the earth gives way under your feet.
Some people may argue that its OK to lie if it has no major implications. My take on that is that, the act of lying, just as honesty, is a matter of habit. Good habits cultivate strong relationships. Trust once shattered never comes back.
2006-10-27 04:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by cucumber_cool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everything is palatable in a relationship, so some things are better left unsaid as honesty can ruin that which you are trying to preserve.
2006-10-23 07:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by marizani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋