we have not been together since i found out that i was pregnant.
i dont want to be with him in any way, but i need to know if confronting him with the information that was given me is the right way to go, or do i continue to disassociate myself from him?
2006-10-23 06:37:11 · 22 answers · asked by yaya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you haven't been with him since finding out you are pregnant, no need to confront him with the information, if you don't want him to be a part of the child's life. You might want to keep tabs on him however, because some day the child might want to meet his biological father.
2006-10-23 06:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think of the child, so yes you should limit your association with him, but you should tell him, he has a right to know, but make it clear that both of you don't have a future together and the child will be your responsibility, if he wants to chip in financially he can. You should also tell him that if he wants to be more involved in the child's life he should take steps towards fighting his drug problem, get a lawyer's advice concerning custody and his rights when it comes to raising the child.
I wish you luck!
2006-10-23 06:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by kbabes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him know he is going to be a father. He may clean up his act. Make him get help before he can have any visitations and you could have court ordered supervision for the visitations. Its not right to not tell him. Just because you have a kid though you don't have to be with him, but do make it clear to him if he wants anything to do with the child he needs to quit doing drugs!
2006-10-23 06:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by NoName 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a rough situation. I don't see any reason for him to know about it because you are already sure he isn't going to be a benefit to the baby. Yet, it's his child too and he technically has a right to know. Then again, he could get some wild hair to fight you for custody and that wouldn't be good.
Does he have any family members that you're close to and you could trust? I would suggest telling them first and asking for their aid in keeping him away if you do tell him.
2006-10-23 06:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he should stay away from you until he gets his self straight because there is a chance that you could get caught up in that bad stuff. I also think that you should be careful before you decide to let him into the child's life. You can still check up on him to see how he is doing but as far as being with him, that would be a bad idea.
2006-10-23 06:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Starlesha23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't know he had a drug problem, then you didn't know him well enough to have sex with him!!
I know my boyfriend very well, well enough to know he doesn't have a drug problem but, for the sake of argument, he now develops one and I find out I'm pregnant, I'd have a long talk with him about how he can choose drugs or to be part of the baby's life. If he wanted to be part of the baby's life, I'd get him into a drug treatment program.
Have you considered giving your kid up for adoption?
2006-10-23 06:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure he is the baby's daddy, then you have to tell him. I would do it now, rather than later, but beware, you could have a lifetime of woes. If you truly want no help, then tell him you are willing to leave him be if he signs over full custody to you. If not, have a DNA test done, sue for child support and make his life miserable.
2006-10-23 06:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to be around a man that does drugs or put your child around that dont even waste your time telling him about his child he will say he cares but really he doesnt i know this from experence. Keep your life strait and find a good man to take care of you and your child.
2006-10-23 06:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by panna_baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you made up your mind already.And as far as confronting him, I think if you know this is true then talk to his family and let them decide.There is only one person that can make him stop, and thats him.Not you,not a baby ,not family, but at least notifying them, releases you of any resentments later.
2006-10-23 06:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't share the info with him, if you do you will have a lifetime of hell, he will later be a thorn in your side and want visitation or custody, save yourself alot of heartache and keep the info to myself.once your child is born you will become a different person and the father will just not fit in.
2006-10-23 06:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋