My boyfriend is just alll against that idea. He thinks it's wrong wrong, just wrong. I asked him many times why he don't want me to have any friendly relationships with my ex or with guys ( innocent relationships) but he nver gave me a logic answer.
All he says is "why would you talk to ther guys?" "what's the sense? what is it going to add to your life?" "I don't talk to my ex girlfriends, I don't talk to other girls, why would you ? "
Help me out figure out this
Thanks
2006-10-23 06:34:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
By the way I don't mind if he has female friends or talks to his ex girlfriends ...
2006-10-23 06:44:04 · update #1
10 .... how immature
btw I never had sex with anybody not with my ex's not with my bf now never untill marriage
so, relax.
2006-10-23 06:51:47 · update #2
Men are extremely insecure creatures by nature. This is not a generalization, it's a fact. Your boyfriend is feeling nervous and insecure. he wants to be the only dude that you talk to because he's afraid he'll lose you to some other guy if y'all spend too much time in conversation. As for the ex? FUHGEDABOUDIT! The boyfriend never ever wants to hear about the ex, because the two of you have history together. In his mind if you two are still on good terms then there is a good chance that you might want to rekindle what you had before he came into the picture. this is how guys think! (don't be fooled by their macho exterior, they're big babies on the inside, lol)
2006-10-23 06:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by fabulous diva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With the ex, it's hard for him because you had a relationship with the guy, so he's assuming that you still have feelings for him. He's probably worried that you're going to get back together someday, or that you at least want to. He might also be worried that the guy will try to "steal" you back, even if he trusts YOU the ex can still be a problem.
You should be able to have male friends. That is absolutely true. However, he probably worries if you spend a lot of time alone with any of them. When you're out with your male friends, ask yourself "What would I think if my man was at this place/doing this activity with another girl right now?" Hold yourself to the same standard that you hold him. He should do the same for you.
You should not lose any of your friendships for your boyfriend's sake. But you need to realize that some activities and behaviors are appropriate when you are single, but are inappropriate when you are attached. Understand?
By the way, it might help if you include your guy in some group outings with your male and female friends. If he gets to know them, then he will have a chance to understand that the guys respect your relationship and are not going to be a problem. If the guys do not respect your relationship, by the way, then you either have to dump them or dump the guy, because that's not fair.
2006-10-23 06:43:44 · answer #2 · answered by Heidi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem with my ex bf. I got pretty mad when he was spending more time on his laptop than with me. he BROUGHT his laptop when he came Iver to my house the first time and I had to beg him to get off. He didn't understand how pissed off I was when he slapped my good friends leg and touching her hips and stuff. And this guy asked me to hook up with him an dI said no. (because I had a bf). And my bf said he wouldn't even care if I did hook up with him and gave he excuse he "trusts me". He always thought I was wrong and so that's how we broke up. Well with your situation, I think hugging a girl tight is not right. And if they touch herinappropriatelyy you need to tell the guy to back off. If your gf tells you to calm down, just walk away from them. If she can't respect your feelings, she doesn't care about you. She needs to understand that if she has a bf, she cant be letting guys hug her and stuff UNLESS they've been REALLY good friends for a long time. That's ok. I don't think you're possesive, you just care about your gf. I really think you deserve better :/
2016-05-22 01:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure in the relationship. He thinks you are going to get back with your ex. Some can take it, when they are open minded, and have confidence in themselves and their relationship. Some just can't do that. Ask yourself how you would react if it was the other way around.
2006-10-23 06:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends what it is the most important for you : your boyfriend to be happy or you to be as you want to be ....
I think you don't gain anything if you keep talking with your ex.... he is not part of your life anymore ! So what's the use ? So , from this point of view , in my opinion he is right : try to talk to him everything and you won't need anybody else !
2006-10-23 06:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by alina d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its pure jealousy, he wants you all to himself and feels like if you are talking to other guys then your sharing that special intimacy you and him have together with others. It's insecurities on his part and he's afraid of losing you to one of your guy friends.
2006-10-23 06:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks you are trying to get back with your ex,
you think???
2006-10-23 06:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they're scared that u will fall 4 him again.......
standard procedure
2006-10-23 06:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by stress77mulah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cause we want you to be our little slut and not think about how you used to be someone else's slut - we dont want to hear about how you used to lick his balls and let him slam you in the a.ss - cause if your still thinking about it and want to talk about it its cause you still want it
2006-10-23 06:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by 10 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋