my bf and I were talking about x-mas yesterday and he asked what are we going to do about x-mas. He said he thinks we should set an amount to spend on eachother and not go over. Well, I think thats a fine idea, cause I tend to go overboard when it comes to buying presents but what should the limit be?? If I suggest too high, he will feel cheap to suggest lower if I suggest too low, he will think I dont want to spend much on him! We both make a decent living, so I wouldnt mind $200! but he might think thats too much! How do you address an issue like this? This is something you cant just -not- talk about, or beat around the bush!
2006-10-23 06:22:56 · 8 answers · asked by katie-bug 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
uhm, just for the record, Im not trying to get him to spend lots of money on me, I love him more than anything, and I dont want him to feel uncomfortable if I buy him something really nice, and he gets me a little something (as if I'd care!). Of course, the thought counts, I dont care what we spend, but he does!
2006-10-23 06:35:44 · update #1
When you really think about it, it's the thought that counts. You can't put a price tag on love. If you see something that your boyfriend will love and it just happens to cost $100 for instance, then you should get it, not because you feel pressured to fit your gift into a certain price category, but because you love him and you know that he would get enjoyment out of that gift. And anyway, it's none of his business how much you spend on the gift (smile). If he asks then politely tell him that it doesn't matter, what matters is your love for one another and that you wanted to get him a gift for Christmas that he will adore! Cheers...
(Good grief, can't believe we're already talking about CHRISTMAS! Where'd the time go...?)
2006-10-23 06:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by fabulous diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys should definitely set a limit. With my wife and myself, we started at $200, then the amount has gone down over the years. One thing we have noticed through this: if the gift is a thoughtful one, it doesn't matter how much we spent. We spent $50 on each other last Christmas and it made us have to think harder on what to get each other. It was the best Christmas between us ever. The bottom line is that it doesn't mater how much you spend. Just put some thought into it. If $100 is a good starting point and you both feel good about it, do it! Good luck!
2006-10-23 06:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by drbuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking about money with most anyone is always difficult, so you will just have to suck it up and do it. I think it is very important that you realize you tend to go overboard. You can buy someone a really nice present for $100 bucks. But most importantly is the thought behind the present. Make it easy on both of you, set a spending limit and then provide each other with a list of things you would like to have but would never buy for yourself.
2006-10-23 06:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by peaches629 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how long you guys have been together and how you feel about them. Personally though, money has never been an issue in my relationship with my boyfriend. We just buy what we know the other would really like. Our second Christmas, he bought me a computer and I bought him a surfboard. We've never been happier. You don't have to make a spending limit. I know there's something that you know he would REALLY like. Just get it for him.
J
2006-10-23 06:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the sand hill are you two even discussing this? Personally I find it cold, calculating and petty on a level I can barely articulate, but I guess that's just me. Spend whatever you feel comfortable spending on this guy, don't nickle and dime it. He doesn't have to know, nor should he. The same goes for him. I think a better idea might be to spend the money on a special trip for two, somewhere nice and romantic where you both can get your priorities straight. Oy!
2006-10-23 06:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by inquiringmind 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have him set the limit. That way you know what he's expecting to spend on you and what he expects you to spend on him. I spend 200 on my boyfriend last year.
2006-10-23 06:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by No Nickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him what amount he would think is reasonable.
Why is this a difficult problem???
2006-10-23 06:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think 100 bucks is just fine,
2006-10-23 06:24:13 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋