We have different views on what is acceptable for our 8 year old to do and not to do. I get upset when he lets her watch things like King Kong and X-Men 3. He says that it is fine. How can I get him to see that this stuff bothers me, and that it is not ok for our 8 year old to watch?
2006-10-23 06:22:10 · 9 answers · asked by Stasi 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do your part to teach your child right from wrong.
As long as your ex has legal rights to see the child and act how he sees fit, you cannot tell him what to do.
In the long-run, your child will know you are the more concerned parent. Otherwise, all your fussing now will only create a divide between you and your child.
2006-10-23 06:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly alot of parents have different veiws on raising their children but you have to learn to comprimise and meet each other half way. But in your situation it's a bit different and a bit harder because although you share a child together your not always going to be around to know what's going on and that goes for the both of you.All you can do is talk with him and explain your self and hope he understands and you can work something out. I do have to ask though what's wrong with X-Men and King Kong there just movies? Children are smarter than you think. I have two daughters who are 8 and 5 and they watch Spiderman, X-Men, and alot of other movies like those but I talk to them and they know what's right and what's wrong and the difference between real life and pretend. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I'am not trying to change your mind because everyone is entitled to their own opinion but seriously the children that go to school with guns and kill and hurt other children do you real think that it was do to a movie or a song they might have watched or heard? I think not. Problems happen because parents don't talk to their children and teach them anything. It's our job as parents to teach them and take care of them and if anyone is to blame it's us not t.v. or the radio so just talk to your daughter it can't hurt anything. My 8 year old daaughter still beleaved in Santa, the toothfairy, and the easter bunny till this year in school a classmate told her his version off the truth. So unless you would rathre her find out from some kid at school about everything because beleave me that's where they learn alot more then you want them to so before those kids at school get to her you talk to her first.
2006-10-23 13:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously is not respecting your views on raising your child. Have you considered family counseling sessions? I know it cost money but it might be something to consider for your child's sake. Or maybe you should just sit him down and talk to him about this. If he wont talk then family counseling will probably be your only other option.Good Luck and god bless.
2006-10-23 13:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you're still sleeping together (virtually all divorcees do).
Next time - after a mutually agreeable "session", bring up the topic.
He'll be incrediblly receptive !
2006-10-23 13:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Pat R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is baiting you. Ignore him. Hope that your influence will win out. You can do nothing, make sure your daughter knows the rules in your house
2006-10-23 13:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him why it bothres you, in a cal andrelaxed atmosphere. If you both have your child's best intentions at heart, it will work out!
2006-10-23 13:35:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You couldn't get through to him while you were married (hence, you're divorced) ... What makes you think you can get through to him after being divorced?
2006-10-23 13:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by blueyedimpledguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, you are 'divorced' he WILL do anything now that will bother you. You need to ignore it, and just take it to your lawyer.
2006-10-23 13:29:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just don't allow him to do it......you know better what is good for your kid so....if he doesn't understand it is his problem don let him do what is wrong or inappropriate for her age.
2006-10-23 13:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋