most of u said that i shouldn't tell anything about my x-bf & a six yrs. ago broken relation (i've no feelings for my x-bf) to my would be husband, but i'm worried that what if he asks whether i had an affair in my past.
what & how should i answer him and handle this horrible situation
2006-10-23 05:58:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The important thing is whether you were having any affair at the time of your marriage. Why should something with which you have made a clean break in the past, haunt your married life? You are being unduly worried. No harm in telling hubby the truth. But don't if you think he is a prude.
2006-10-23 09:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by Modest 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
always go with the truth - to be caught in a lie might send a signal that you are still hoping to rekindle the past relationship or that you might lie to your cuirrent guy about other things. And if you think you can lie and get away with it, truth is ther eis always a chance he will find out the truth at some point and it is far better for you to tell him than him to catch you in a lie.
That doesn't mean telling all the gory detaisl and he really should not ask for them all. But telling him the basic facts - the relationship existed, it was okay, it ended and maybe some of the why did it end and then impress on him you are with him now and he is the only one who matters. If it freaks him out or causes him to run away from you or he tries to pry too deeply, then maybe he isn't really the guy for you anyway.
2006-10-23 13:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
An "affair" as in being dishonest to someone, or an "affair" meaning a "relationship"? There's nothing wrong with having had realtionships in the past, and while you're not required to go into details, you should mention it if he asks. But anything dishonest I would not disclose, as long as you're not planning to perpetuate the same dishonesty in the future.
2006-10-23 13:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't mention your dishonesty in the past - but ONLY if you plan to stay faithful in the present and future. If you were young and reckless and cheated on an ex boyfriend, that happens. If you are a chronic cheat, you need to come clean about it. But what's in the past should truly remain there.
2006-10-23 13:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need not hesitate to reveal the past. Need not worry about the repercussions.Both of you must be fair in all aspects. Convince with the suitable reasons for the incident happened past.
2006-10-23 13:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all he shouldn't be to prying as its you two now, starting a life. Prying too much usually means a bit of insecurity. If he keeps at it say sure, we all had issues in our past that made us what we are and able to appreciate what we have now.
2006-10-23 15:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he ask you a straight up question give him a straight up answer. You don't have to tell him EVERYTHING but you should tell him the truth to the question he asked.
Make sure the relastionship starts off as an honest one!
2006-10-23 13:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. If you lie and he finds out he would loose trust in you and possibly suspect you of cheating on him, or having the ability to cheat on him.
2006-10-23 14:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by howdyyo84 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well what happens in the past don't have to be an issue for your fiance.....whats wrong with him....talk to him and let him know your are not sure to share your life with somebody who doest trust you.....
2006-10-23 13:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by haki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then you be honest and tell him straight out. It's not that hard to do. just answer his questions the same way as if you asked him.. you'd want a straight out honest answer right?
2006-10-23 13:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋