Some people say that you never get over your first love. What do you think? Do you think people love deepest the first time?
2006-10-23 05:47:30 · 11 answers · asked by MaryAnn 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It is, and here is why. It has just been proven that when someone falls in love, certain chemicals are released into the brain that triggers the 'starry eyed' feeling that one gets. Now, couple that with the emotional feelings, and the fact that it is the first time--which is an attractive feeling for anything--and you have a very powerful combination of desires all rolled into one. This EXACT feeling can only happen once in anyones life: i.e. the first time, because any time after that will never be the same. Therefore, both scirntifically, and emotionally, the first time is the strongest, the most wonderful and the deepest.
2006-10-23 06:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Hetzer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In some cases a person's first love can be a powerful feeling that has never been experienced before (which is why a first love is powerful). I think that people learn from their mistakes in which they made with their first love. I think if a person has enough will power and enough get-up-&-go about his/herself, she can find it in her heart to give love another try but I think when people say that they'll never get over their first love, they're speaking about what he/she did to him/her or what she/he did to that person and in some cases, they're talking about the way they felt about that person, what that qualities that person possessed, and how they were treated or the memories that they relate to that person. I think in a matter of speaking, people do love deepest the first time because they would never imagine being soo involved with a person like that ever again, so intwined and mesmerized or feeling that way again. A lot of yourself is going into love and when it's snatched away, you feel lost and empty.
2006-10-23 06:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by Dimples 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because you're experiencing a major emotion for the first time. That experience etches a lasting impression on your soul and, yes, you never forget it.
You may also compare every subsequent relationship to your first, however, the true depth and breadth of your feelings and love may be deeper for yet another person. This is all right, because you want to love the person you care for right now as much as you possibly can . . .
2006-10-23 05:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by alchemist0750 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each situation is unique.
Some ppl have wonderful first love experiences. The strong ones usually result in marriage. These ppl can transition from the physical chemical changes: going from 'Dopamine' rushes (love sick) into 'Serotonin' stability (true love - bonding love). Or simply put, evolve together to compromise their lives into one life.
Those who felt that this was the one ... but it failed usually need time to evaluate what was good, bad, and what do they want going forth. Those who have good recovery time usually have a stronger and deeper relationship than the first.
However, some ppl get addicted to the "Dopamine" chemical reaction in the brain. New love usually heightens the "Dopamine" level in a person. This is a temporary chemical. When the chemical is stopped being produced, well they seek it from other ppl causing harm and destruction in their lives. These ppl usually never find the same chemical effects as their first love, and this causes them to seek more furiously, hurting them deeper and other's deeper.
2006-10-23 06:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first love is something that will always be with you, you also learn from the first love as to what to say and what not to do this can also make the love after the first a great thing to. but remember you have to work as hard the second time around as the first. and even though you'll always remember the first don't let that get in way of the second.
2006-10-23 06:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think people do love the deepest the first time, and i do agree that they never forget about their first love. especially younger people
2006-10-23 12:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think first love is deeper - you are just learning what love is all about. But it has been my epxerience, with myself and others I know, that it leaves a lasting mark and sometimes a lasting connection unlike with anyone else.
2006-10-23 05:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by wmsbgnut 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You are more trusting the first time, if you get into another relationship after the first one this means the first relationship failed somehow or you are a widow. In your next relationship you are more tenative and not as trusting.
2006-10-23 05:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lorie S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st loves are head over heels crazy love. You give it your all. You haven't been scorned or hurt yet so, that would be a YES to the first love option.
2006-10-23 05:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because the impact is not only great, it is new. There was a great article on this in a recent National Geographic Magazine..
2006-10-23 05:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋