now all of the sudden she wants to live with her DaD because he let's her do whatever she wants, which has me scared to death!
2006-10-23 05:43:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Painful as it may be, have a talk with her dad. Tell him of your concerns. Don't give up custody tho. I'd suggest allowing her to spend a little more time with her dad each week but have her come home to you for bedtime.
2006-10-23 05:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by pamela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your daughter doesnt like the borders you have set for her and at 15 it seems that you are the evil queen of damn nation,and thats okay. let her move with her father because little does she know that just because daddy let you do whatever when you come on the weekends doesnt mean those same things will happen when she is there 24/7 days a week. by then she will realize that at home with the evil queen really isnt all that bad.
2006-10-23 06:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by yaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still the adult in charge. Don't be offended she is just 15 and not mature in life enough. She can't run from responsibility by moving in with her dad. She has yet still a lot to learn from you wether she knows it or not. If she starts to act out and you can't tolerate it, then let her go, just leave the door of communication open in case she realize she has made a mistake and wants to make things up to you.
2006-10-23 05:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you chose to have a child with this man. So now it's time to prove that you chose correctly. If you can't trust the father of your child to properly look after her, then you are in a world of trouble!
Let her live with Dad if that's what she wants. She's 15 and entitled to choose. Just remember to always be there for her and when she wants to come home, welcome her with open arms.
2006-10-23 05:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are giving advice to let her live with her father and they dont even know your situation. This is your fault really for asking this question on here but, you are the boss and in order for her to decide there would have to be some sort of neglect or another situation similar to that for a judge to allow her to make her own decision.
So, too bad and go clean your room!!
2006-10-24 11:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Daycare Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister did the same thing, and she became very promiscious, drinks and smokes. I highly suggest you get her to family counseling, just you and her, and discuss it. You have to be strong about this, she will say very hurtful things that will probably make you cry, but you have to be strong for yourself and her because she lives with her father judging from what you are saying, she is at a higher risk of getting an STD, HIV, or pregnant or even getting addicted to drugs. To the extreme, get full parental custody of her from the court. Also, talk to her, and if she starts yelling or argueing, respond in calm quiet words so that she will actually have to shut up to hear what you are saying. Another suggestion, if she slams her door or locks it, when she is at school remove her door or the lock and tell her that she will get it back when she can prove to you that she is trustworthy.
Another thing, if you are the dominant custody holder and she decides to just leave and live with her father you need to call the police immediatly and tell them that your daughter ran away to her fathers house, or even better, that he took her. And because you have dominant custody rights, the police have to pick her up from her father's house and bring her back home. Do not let her do what she wants. My mom had to let my sister go to our fathers house because she caused trouble for me, and it threatened me from graduating from high school. But you dont have another child to worry about so you can put your full and undivided attention on her.
2006-10-23 05:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens all the time. You and your ex need to be on the same page when it comes to your daughter. If you are then let her go live with him. Hopfully she will learn her lesson in playing one parent against the other.
2006-10-23 05:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a yucky situation. my advice would be to look at the ACTUAL danger of her living w/ her father. if there is little to none, i say let her live w/ him. most likely she'll be back. during that age most kids want the chance to change their environment (ie changing their life) once she's there she'll see she isn't as comfortable and things aren't as fabulous as they seemed to be prior to the move. Also, talk to her father. is he interested in having her.
2006-10-23 05:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by simple1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go and experience life or she will start being rebelious towards you.. I went to go and live with my dad when I was 14.. It was terrible, but I lied to my mom and told her it was great....
believe me there is nothing like moma
I graduated and ran right back home...
It made me realize how much she meant to me
I know it hurt her to see me leave but she said she understood
2006-10-23 05:48:01 · answer #9 · answered by jessica jones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes a teen and shes playing you in order to get whatever she wants. Like drugs, just say no. You have custody.
2006-10-23 05:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋