Why do people marry so often and dont try to live with that person that they are married with ????

Question

If i would marry i think i would try everthing to stay with that person and not to think about marrieg again. Marrieg is a importend thing and so we take our time before marrieg, but why marry again. Please give me answers that is based on a explenation. Thanks !!

(Ps: Don't forget to give me a up or down. So that i know if the question was good or bad. Thanks !!

Answer 1

your right! it's like a trend. so and so got divorced so I'll do it too!

it's really sad! but what can we do. i'm having my 4th yr anniversary in January. and let me tell you it's not a walk in the park. but we love each other and we always work on our problems. see that's the problem with some people now a days. too much pride. they encounter a problem and no one wants to admit who's in the wrong and their solution to separate.

i wish married couple would think twice and look deep in their hearts before jumping to that conclusion. marriage is not always colorful. you have to work at it. that's why we say "for better or for worse" ,"through sickness and in health"

love is not the only recipe to a successful marriage, you have to have trusts,honesty and friendship!passion and romance won't hurt either.;o)

Answer 2

Marriage, not Marrieg. Explanation, not Explenation. I could go on...but to answer your question...

People often get married for the wrong reasons to begin with, so the marriage is doomed from the start.

People marry for the right reasons, but forget that marriages require care and attention. When things don't go right or being married becomes "inconvenient" (like when you want to hook up with someone else, but, damn! You're already married!) it's too easy to divorce your spouse and move on.

People and relationships are treated as being very disposable. No one wants to do the work, just enjoy the benefits. Marriage has lost it's value as an institution.

You marry again because you realize your mistake(s), find someone you want t commit to and they feel the same. Or, you're just tired of being alone (another bad reason to marry or remarry).

People marry and find out that their spouses have issues (addiction of any kind, child molesters, abusive, psychotic) and find that they can't live with their spouses and eventually divorce them. They should divorce these types and not get sucked into the vortex.

The reasons are many, but the point is to know yourself first before you marry. When you find a suitable companion, don't blind yourself to the obvious challenges (drinking, infidelity, abuse, etc.)

Answer 3

Because it is so easy to get a divorce in this day and age and doesnt have the social stigma it used to. It's to easy to expect perfection and move on rather than having the true meaning of marriage....... two people who grow together and become closer to each other. It is the differences in different people that make for a dynamic relationship because it would be boring to be with someone who is exactly the same. Sadly it takes people too long to understand this.

Answer 4

You said in your question that marriage is important and we take our time before marriage, but that is not how many people see marriage. They might see it as important, but they do not take their time.

Also, many people are portraying themselves as something they are not in order to win over the other person. But it is nearly impossible to keep up this charade.

Many people get excited about being together, but when the "Honeymoon" period wears off, they are not so happy about their choice.

While it sounds like a good idea to hang in there and try to make it work, a bad decision is just that. Some couples are just not meant for each other. There are abusive spouses and people who just do not get along. Not all relationships are meant to be, even though they might look good at first.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 5

People wrongly marry for "love" and assume that a feeling is all they need to sustain a lasting partnership. They mistakenly assume their "soul mate" will understand their every whim and mood without their having to communication. They have poor role models (divorced parents) and have never learned conflict resolution and commitment. They run their lives based on "feelings" rather than a sense of duty, sacrifice and their vows. They exepct other people to "make them happy" and sit around bickering rather than learning to find their own inner joy.
And they somehow feel "staying together for the children" isn't as important as their own selfish "happiness" (usually not found in another person's bed) and the cycle of dysfunctional divorced children grow up to produce more dysfunctional divorced children.

Answer 6

Typically, people give up too easily and just want out without thinking of the consequences later down the road. I am on my 2nd marriage. The first, 8 years. I tried, but he wanted out because he didn't want to be a father and a husband, and we had an 18 mo. baby. He was abusive, so it turned out best for me that I left. There are a lot of reasons people leave, abusive situations, money, stubbornness, communication. It isn't easy going through a divorce. Actually, it is more time and frustration to go through one, so you would think people would think long and hard before making the plunge!

Answer 7

I was with my first husband 14 years and all I did was try to make the marriage work, he did not. I married again a few years later and am still with this man and will be for the rest of my life. He is a good man and we are very happy together. Some people marry for the wrong reasons, that is why the divorce rate is so high. A lot of thhose people are just trying to escape something or someone, be it their parents or bad relationship. And believe me, that is no reason to marry.

Answer 8

Divorce is made too easy and the mind set has changed. People now go into marriage thinking that if it doesnt work out then they can always get a divorce. What they dont realize is that there are always gonna be ups and downs. Spending your entire life with someone is not always gonna be all roses. Nobody wants to work at it anymore.

Answer 9

my dad and grandpa where both married more than once, grandpa on number 4. now my mom and grandma where married only once.

im not saying its just a guy thing cause women do it too. but marriage seems to be more of a business transaction and when i goes sour the transaction is voided, divorce.

i think people are getting married for the wrong reasons and dont want to be with the person and divorce. now i dont want to get divorce, i wish all marriages well, but i dont believe making people stay together is the answer either. people get murdered by their spouses because they would not sign the divorce papers they also get murdered for signing them, after alimony. so if they want to go let them but if you know they are just worried and need to work something out to save the marriage SAVE IT.... :)

i almost believe if you and your partner are in love and love that person you will stick with them through anything. cheating, lying, that is a cover up to something that is wrong inside of your partner and those actions are them seeking help. so consider that before anyone signs any divorce papers.

Answer 10

Since you are not married. I guess you have NO IDEA about how you might or might not feel about it.

You can guess at how you would feel but until you have walked in the shoes for 15 years! That can be FOREVER if it is not to the right person. You don't know do you?

I use to say "I will never let my kids act this way or that!" Then I actually had kids. Can you say "Insert foot!"

So be very, very careful how you judge something you really don't know anything about!