We were out at a bar n he was heavily flirting with the bartender n my friends couldn't believe it. Later when I was talking to some guy about my sister in law he came over to where I was n started flippin out. Why would he do this?
2006-10-23 05:15:12 · 24 answers · asked by tmc4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like he is very insecure. He wants to know that "he still has it", hence the flirting, but he worries that you will leave him for another man. You should talk about this. He needs to understand that you are not planning on going anywhere, and that his behavior was inappropriate and hurtful. Trust is a big issue in your relationship.
2006-10-23 05:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually a guy like that is VERY insecure in his feeling about his value as a man. He doesn't have any SELF worth. He flirts because he is looking for outside reassurance that he is a man "worth having". That same insecurity shows itself as "flippin out" when you talk to someone.
It really sounds like hubby doesn't think very highly of himself.
2006-10-23 05:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im also a married man who probably flirts a bit with women although we do this we do still love our partners and we do this because we feel as if we have something to prove that were not over dependant on our partners (some men could be though) but seriously i wouldnt read too much into this it sounds like he loves you and gets upset or whatever when u talk to other blokes cos he doesnt realise he is flirting he probably thinks hes just having harmless fun but he sees you talking and realises how specail it is for him to be with you
2006-10-23 05:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by mustang_rws 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have some insecurities and may not realize that his own flirting is bothering you. You need to let him know that it is bothering you. It could cause you to become insecure as well, then there'd be a huge mess between you. Be real with him and confront him. You can do it girl.
2006-10-23 05:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by ladyk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy
2006-10-23 05:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by cramcram62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that it's ok for him but not for you. He sounds as if he is insecure in the marriage. Talk to him and explain to him that he was flirting and if he is going to do it, you have the right to do it too.
2006-10-23 05:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds as if he is duplicitousin nature - 'do as I say, not as I do.' He wants the freedom to flirt with women but expects you to be respectful to him by not engaging other men. Perhaps if you spoke to him about how it makes you feel when you see/hear of him flirting with other women he might discontinue his behavior.
2006-10-23 06:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by betty louise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd guess he's absolutely sure of his own status when he's "flirting", but not of yours. I guess if you told him you trust that he still loves you and is not serious when he flirts, and that he can trust you just as much, that could help to make him feel more certain of you.
2006-10-23 05:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is insecure and he needs some kind of reassurance that he is still attractive. Either that or he is trying to make you jealous.
2006-10-23 05:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he got a taste of his own medicine!You should explain to him that you are very hurt by his flirting.I hope it helps!
2006-10-23 05:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by Gin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋