Hubby has been helping his friend, who happens to be a woman, clean up junk left at her house by the man she just kicked out. They have known each other for 10+ years. She has been to our house for parties etc. He swears they are just friends, as does she. Should I be worried?
2006-10-23 05:14:57 · 24 answers · asked by misty3065 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been married for almost 18 years. It's not possible for me to help them clean up as they usually do it during the day while I am at work. Also, I work 3 days a week from 8:30 am to 12 midnight.
2006-10-23 05:26:09 · update #1
in my personal experience ive found its more than possible for a man and woman to be just friends because a man sees things differently im sure there is nothing to worry about here he probably just wants to be a good friend to her and thats all he more than likely sees this as an opportunity to do something good and if you are really worried about it like you said hes youre hubby im sure hell be more than willing to sit and talk about it
2006-10-23 23:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have they given you any reason to doubt them? When it comes to these kinds of situations, these are the rules for me... (not that she's your enemy) but keep your friends close and your enemies even closer.
I would just keep an eye out from now on. Don't go looking for it, because you're bound to find something that could be innocent and make a total fool of yourself.
Your husband really should be considering your feelings however on this point. He should at least invite you to come along and she should be willing to have you over to help as well. This way they can put your mind at ease.
As for your original question about men and women being just friends. I feel whole heartidly that they can be. Without a shadow of a doubt. My best friend is a man, we've known each other 25 years (since we were 5 years old). But in consideration to each others spouses we don't spend any alone time together anymore (although I'm sure both would be OK with it)
2006-10-23 05:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to be worried about a situation like this. I totally understand where your coming from becuase my husband has a girl friend that he hangs out with when I'm not around. I guess the way I got over it is by sitting down with him and discussing the way I feel. If you can come to terms with the relationship your husband has with this other female and it doesn't bother you after a while then its ok. But if it still bothers you after a month or even two then I think you need to seat your hubby down again and tell him exactly how its making you feel. Your marriage must be built around trust and respect otherwise it won't work.
2006-10-23 05:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by ♀ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....go rent When Harry Met Sally.
Seriously....I can JUST be friends with a man, but my boyfriend insists (much like in the movie) that a man ALWAYS wants to get down a woman's pants. Now, he does not have ANY female friends, so I have no worries, but I have a lot of male friends, and I can't imagine they all want to get down my pants. Who knows, really? Do you trust your husband? That's what it all boils down to. This is a woman he's been friends with for over a decade. Did he know her first before you came along? If so....they are just friends, I'm sure. As long as he's not spending a lot of time with her. It's okay for him to help her move, even though I know it's driving you crazy. Try to relax and trust him. See if you can come along, too. If he says 'no', maybe then start worrying.
2006-10-23 05:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by circa 1980 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible. The probably is what you should think of. Has he been unfaithful before? Has this woman been romantically involved with him before?
I had a friend whom I liked to hang out with. She was interested in me and it showed. My ex-g/f saw it right away. She never trusted us together. I would not cheat on her with that woman. (I have never cheated on any woman). Temptation gets hard sometimes. My ex-g/f told me she was uncomfortable about her. So I restricted my time with my female friend to when my g/f was also with us. If I saw her at her house (my friend was her husband) then didn't stay very long.
I adjusted for my g/f to help ease my g/f's distrust. Perhaps you should approach your Hubby about this and inform him of your feelings. Remember though, jealousy is the green monster that can hurt a relationship.
I don't want to scare you. I hope you use the best judgment regarding your situation. Good luck and I hope things come out for the best.
2006-10-23 05:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by elliott 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on both of them... The woman may have feeling for your husband or the other way around... then again they may just really be friends... if your having worries about them i would talk to other ppl who know them both... see if anything has ever happend between them... how did they meet...
this is what i have experienced with me being friends with guys...
I've been friends with this guy for 13 years... He is married and in love with me... thing is i never will let it get to that point...
I also have guys that I am friends with that I met them with the intentions to get to know more than friends... nothing ever happend.. but if i would let it they would...
Then i have a guy friend that we are just cool... we have never talked about anything... we hang out... his wife and me are cool... so as you see it all depends on the ppl who are friends....
2006-10-23 05:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by SweetOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am friends with a man, and have been for over 30 years! I'm in a relationship with another man. He's going to have to get over it.
I guess depending on what your man means by 'friends' some people say they are friends in reality they are having sex and call themselves friends.. that's not 'really' friends.
I'd believe him when he says they are friends.. as I am going through the same thing myself. BUT... watch that friend.. when she starts feeling 'hard-up' for a man, your man could become more then just friends. find her someone to be with.. help her along in that way. and tell her straight out. 'LEAVE MINE ALONE' she needs to hear that from you.
2006-10-23 05:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be worried. Men and women cannot be friends because men have a biological need to procreate. If this woman was decent she would not spend any amount of time with a married man. I say you should keep a closer eye on the two of them.
2006-10-23 05:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by HipChick 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing to worry about. Men and women can be just friends. I am friends with this one lady for 20 + years now and we done nothing. We have given a friendly kiss to each other as brother sister. Just relax and don't worry.
2006-10-23 05:22:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋