2006-10-23 05:06:09 · 58 answers · asked by Treebeard 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is a thought. That is all that is should be. Not a consideration. Try working into it. He shouldn't just jump to it. Something could be bothering her. He should talk to her. They should take classes or counseling. They should try writng letters. Sometimes writing helps to express and helps others to understand what is going on. It would be better that they remember their vows and pray. For better or worse. I'm not sure how long that man and woman have been married, but he should try some other ways to resolve the matter. He should think about what divorce could mean. It could take a number of years to complete a legal divorce. It may be pretty tough to deal with this, but compared to a divorce, this is a small thing. Divorce would be a whole lot more to deal with. Being in progress of a divorce doesn't separate the two, it doesn't make you legally divorced. Dating others and so forth while divorce is in process is still wrong and he or she should try to make the best of the situation and work on it first.
2006-10-23 05:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by ladyk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that depends on how the "rest" of your relationship is going. Speaking from experience, a lack of "sex" doesn't always mean a lack of love or comittment. Are there factors that might be contributing to her lack of interest in sex? In my opinion, woman do not always connect love with sex (my opinion) and I think "generally speaking" that men may connect the two more. Perhaps there are some issues that can be resolved that will prevent thinking of divorce, which obviously you may already be thinking about (because you asked this question?) Talking in a sincere way is a good thing, always. Self examination (for both) also reveals alot. Good Luck and divorce hopefully is the last step if all else fails.
2006-10-23 05:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by Whoagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesn't feel special to you anymore. Try a little romance. I like sex but I love making love. Maybe your wife is tired. Help her out a little with some of her duties than maybe she will have more energy for sex. Also she may not feel sexy. If you made her feel sexy maybe she would be more open to sex. Sex is not all about the physical for us. It is very much a mind thing too. It is just as important to make love to her mind and it is her body. Maybe one day surprise with a romantic dinner or when she comes home have a nice hot relaxing bath waiting for her. Then again anything you are doing or not doing could not be the problem at all. She could be losing her sex drive. That does happen to some women and men alike. Either way to determine the problem, you have to have a talk with her. If the problem is not romance related then maybe she needs to see a doctor.
2016-05-22 01:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then it's the husband's duty to discover why the wife is behaving in such a manner. Is there something that happened that's causing her to shut down her feelings of intimacy? Is it possible that the husband is not showing her the love she needs to feel in order to express her desire to be with him?
All other avenues should be taken before divorce even comes up. They made a commitment to each other for better or for worse. We as a society need to promote and live up to those vows the best way we can.
2006-10-23 05:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Questions to ask:
1. Does the man really love the woman?
2. Does the woman have no interest in intimacy or sex, or does she just have no interest in being intimate or having sex with HIM?
3 Is her lack of interest in intimacy/sex is a new thing or has she always been that way?
If he really loves her (which means he cares more about her well being than he does whether or not he gets to have sex with her) and she used to like to be intimate and have sex with him, then he might want to help her find out what has changed, in her mind, about intimacy and sex. She might be stressed or perhaps is experiencing some sort of medical problem that is adversely affecting her sex drive. Perhaps she's dealing with depression. Or perhaps he had changed in his interactions with her and she's not adjusting to those changes well.
If he doesn't really love her (meaning he cares more about his need for sex than he does her well being), or if she's always been frigid, then sure, he should think about divorce. Life's too short to spend it with someone who doesn't want to be with you.
2006-10-23 05:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there would be a reason why the wife isn't interested in intimacy. You should address the issue first before you consider divorce. Maybe some marriage counseling could be beneficial.
2006-10-23 05:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there could be alot of reasons. If he is like my husband was in the begining and is still now sometimes. he is jealous and thinks that she is messing around all the time.. and is constantly accusing her of this.. there is one reason.. Does he talk to her.. not just about work.. about normal things or does he come home and sit in his chair and go to sleep.. does he have any contact with her with out grabbing at her. a simple hug. or a nice word for her every now and then.. not always asking what she is doing when he is standing there watching her do it..
has he gained weight .
I persoallly have gone through the change of life and just don't like being grabbed at.. My boobs weren't put on my chest for someone to grab at. I never get a kind word. He has quit drinking for me but still i can't forget the abuse physical and verbal that he has done and still does the verbal now and then.
I also have asthma and can't breath when laying down flat in bed..which he don't care about at all just wants sex.
He works away from home all week and the first thing out of his mouth is i will take you out to eat if we have some sex first. He thinks he can get it by buying something for me. don't fix the problem
Well personally i can do with out the sex part. because he is only caring about what he wants and not what i want.
If he isn't working over the weekend when he is home he is either outside doing something. when in the house with me he is either sleeping or bitching.
so if you man is anything like this think about why she don't want sex.. the intimacy every woman wants. but just don't get it. and with out intimacy it is hard to even think about the sex part because it has come to just the man getting satisfied and he don't care about the one that he is banging on..
alot of reasons for a woman to turn..
2006-10-23 05:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if a spouse is not interested in intimacy, they should free up the other spouse to seek out sexual partners as they see fit. If sex is truly just physical (and I believe that, for a man it truly is) then there's no problem!
Getting the wife to go along with it, though...that's a different matter.
2006-10-23 05:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by Iplaygames2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not yet. There has to be communication as of why the lack of intimacy. There may be a medical problem. If it's not medical then I would recommend counseling. Get to the issue and resolve it before talking about divorce.
2006-10-23 05:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the problem with intimacy in marriage. Why can't the wives and the husbands keep the spice in the marriage? If your wife expresses no interest in making love with you, what kind of relationship so you really have. Intimacy is very important.
2006-10-23 05:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋