I have a friend who hasn't spoken to me for over a month. We have been friends for 8 years. As far as I was aware of, everything was fine. She has always been a little oversensitve, but she's never reacted like this. The other day, she dropped me an email and said that I had hurt her feelings, but she didn't say how, and that's why she hasn't spoken to me in so long. I was completely taken aback and very hurt that she would react that way and I told her so. She won't tell me why she is so hurt. The only thing I can think of is that it somehow has something to do with my being in a relationship and she is not. Could I have said something insensitive about it? Even if I did, why would she react that way? Should I get out of this friendship or try to work it out? If the latter, how do I approach this? I really don't like it when people are passive-aggressive.
2006-10-23 05:03:52 · 10 answers · asked by florafall 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My first reaction was to email her and apologize to her for whatever I did to hurt and to ask her to speak to me about it. We live a ways away from each other so our communication is mainly email/phone, but we usually talk pretty often. I waited 2 days for a response and did not receive one, and I know she checks her email regularly. So then I emailed her again and told her how hurt I was (a little angrily at that). I don't feel it's fair for her to act like she's the only one whose feelings can be hurt.
2006-10-23 05:25:04 · update #1
just continue to be nice to her.
2006-10-23 05:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to decide if the relationship is or is not worth keeping. Only you know the answer to that. You have not been speaking for two months, do you miss the friendship? And if you do decide to continue the relationship she needs to me more forthcoming with conversation. And allowing you a level playing field, you can not do anything about a situation you did not even know existed. You do not even know what her issue is or what you may have done to upset her. And if you being in a relationship and she not is a reason for such drama, personally, i would end the relationship. A true friend would be happy not jealous and insecure of her friends relationship and happiness. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-23 12:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you guys have been friends far too long to just end it over something as stupid as one being in a relationship and not the other.you say you been friends for 8years, that's a long time! i say that if you are really best friends then you can work it out. i also think that your not really friends if you cant fight and then make up. i mean you wouldn't stop being her friend if she was in a relationship and you weren't, right? then obviously she still wants to be your friend or else she wouldn't have e-mailed you to let you know that you have hurt her feelings in some way and you don't know what you did. why don't you just e-mail her and ask her what you did so you fix the problem. or you could just go up to her and apologize for whatever you did even if you still don't know what you did. eventually it will come out and most likely it will be something totally stupid, but if you are really best friends then you'll be able to work it out. just take my advice and see what happens.
2006-10-23 12:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just tell her that in order to work out the problem, she needs to tell you what she is hurt about. If she is unable to communicate with you, she isn't a very good friend.
2006-10-23 12:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's really your friend you should take the time to find out what's really going on and if she refuses to tell you then you must move on . if one day she finally wants to talk to you about the issue then be receptive and talk to her . there's only so much you can do you can't make anyone like you if they really don't.
2006-10-23 12:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by fstrkm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she really is truely your friend then she will eventually forgive u. i have lots of over sensitive friends, my experience is just to tell it to em straight how u feel, because ur feelings matter to. drop her a emial explaing how u feel and maybe a apology say that if u hurt her feeling that u are sorry
2006-10-23 12:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and don't worry about it. People like that aren't worth it. Move on and get a nice friend.
2006-10-23 12:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit down and have a caring talk with her about this situation and feel his or her point of view and then bring you alls thoughts together
2006-10-23 12:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by eboni m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SEEM TO BE A VERY NICE PERSON, THERE A LOT OF OTHER PEOPLE WANTING TO BE YOUR FRIEND, GET A NEW FRIEND, YOUR OLD FRIEND WILL NOT BE A BIG LOST!
2006-10-23 12:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her how you hurt her and what can be done about it..
2006-10-23 12:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by 'Cause I'm Blonde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋