I used to have my sister in law, and husband.
These days I have had it with her.
Now I want my sister, my husband only. !!!!!
How can I tell my sister in law, she is not welcome?
(by the way...... she has been running her mouth behind my back, has not made payment on a few thousand dollars she owes us, and will not! I have no desire to have in there. )
she will be hurt, we love her but keeping our distance these days concidering the amount of respect she has shown us.
help??/
2006-10-23 04:59:48 · 17 answers · asked by Make u 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
their mother will have the children while we are @ the hospitol. I am sure it will be announced to everyone, via phone, wether 2 in the afternoon, or 3 in the morning. sucks!
2006-10-23 05:05:12 · update #1
My sister deserves to be there. She is my best friend and support I have. She is as active in my life as my husband,/
As for my sister inlaw, she never calls me, bad mouths me, and flat out doesnt like me.
Why does she want to be there, just to say she was!@
2006-10-23 05:07:07 · update #2
just tell her the truth tell her your having your sister and not her and just explain why!! good luck x
2006-10-23 05:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by mummy of 2 boys and a princess x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you would rather your sister be there than her. Tell her that you feel comfortable with only two people in there, and your sister asked first, and you already said yes. I understand how it is, you don't want to get her mad at you so then she can go and talk about you even more. I am pregnant with our third child, with my first it was my husband and my mom. With my second it was my husband and my 17 year old sister. (She was thinking about becoming an OB nurse, I thought it would be a good experience for her), now we have recently moved to a different state, where none of our family live. My mom is coming down to watch our other children, and my father-in-law may come down too, but this is our last baby, so it will be me and my husband only!
But every hospital I have been to, you can only have two people with you. Just tell her your sister asked you first and you can only have two people with you, and since she was with you before, you only think it would be fair to let someone from your family be there this time. Good luck!!
2006-10-23 05:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by tnmomof2as 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Birth is a very intimate experience and any unwanted stress will not only emotionally affect your labour but will biologically affect your labour. Yes, we actually have a part of our brain that when stimulated will release hormone that causes our labour contractions to become irregular etc. So,I say handle it one of two ways. You can approach her and say that you want this birth to be more intimate and thank you for being there the other times but this time you want to spend most of your time with your husband and PERHAPS you will call her. Then just call your other sis. Or two, just don't call her. If you already have distance between the two of you it won't seem odd that you create some space. I suppose another option would be to sit her down privately, confront her on issues and see if you can mend fences. Sometimes confronting and getting it out will diffuse the tension. I understand this must be hard, but it is your birth.
2006-10-23 05:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by Love Birth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you hate it when everything is so complicated? Things that shouldn't be an issue become one..just stressing you out. I think your husband should tell her..or you do it if you want to. It's your very special moment and you have to be there with whomever you want...no one else.If you have to say it straight to her face do it, just tell her you want this time YOUR sister to be there (as well as your husband) It would be rude if she makes a dramma out of it...she has to understand that your sister is more important to you than her..and given that she's been nothing but a horrible person I think she'll understand the subliminal message you are sending there. Good luck
2006-10-23 05:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You or your husband should tell her that this time around you would like your sister to be there to experience the birth with you. That's it! You don't owe her any other explanation. I would think that even if you liked your sister-in-law that you would still rather have your own sister in the room with you instead.
2006-10-23 05:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by Julie F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know, or have your hurband let her know that she can be out in the waiting room with everyone else. That way she is close, but not too close.
The thing is that you need to be comfortable in that time. You won't want to regret it later, or anything right?
You should and CAN have ANYONE you want in there. And the doctor and nurses tell you that if you don't want someone in there then they won't let them in. The way they expalained it to me was to think of it like this.....The nurses are like your own personal bouncers during delivery. You should only have to worry about keeping yourself and your baby healthy, not about stressing over drama. Let them deal with that, and donm't feel bad about anything at anytime.
Good luck, and try to have fun :)
God bless!
2006-10-23 05:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Kyanadri82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you was wrong for ditching your own blood for your husband sister. It should of been your sister attending your births from the get go, but yeah I understand you was kissing her *** and now look how she repaid you back of you being nice to her.
Best of luck! Yeah the truth hurts!!
2006-10-23 13:47:44 · answer #7 · answered by 2Hott2Touch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her that you would like to have your sister with you this time, no need to go into the other details, it would probably just cause dissention, and added stress for you, which isn't good for you or your baby.
2006-10-23 05:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by LofanNui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's YOUR body and YOU are the one in labor. It's YOUR choice who is there. Will your hubby be supportive of your choice? (Assuming this is his sister?)
Maybe just don't call her until it is all over?
EDITED TO ADD:
When you call Grandma to watch the kids, simply have hubby make it clear to her that you don't want others to know. Ask her to be adult and respect your wishes.
Have the nurses be your defense system. Let them know who is and is not allowed in your room. They will help to protect your privacy.
2006-10-23 05:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should just tell her like it is,and besides its your sisters turn this time.look on the brite side so she gets mad and don't talk to you.what do you need her for to owe you money and not pay you back and talk behind your back.she needs you you don't need her.good luck with your baby.p-s besides this stress is no good for you or your baby.
2006-10-23 05:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by bassetluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you don't want any negativity in the room so there for you only want your sis and your hubby in there cause shes rude and disrespectful to you and you don't need it all. id say to tell on the phone and if she gets an attitude you can just hang because you don't need the stress.
2006-10-23 05:14:51 · answer #11 · answered by Natasha C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋