I have married virgin and of course, my husband was well aware of that. Even though he did not like it, he would say he was ok with that, so much that he has married me. Neverthless he has humiliated me a lot on our honey moon cause of my inexperience. I have never forgiven him, as I felt it as a kind of stab on the back (what in the earth was he thinking he would get??? I have ALWAYS been honest with him). I have addopted the motto: "If it is performance you want, that is what you will get" and have become the best lover he has ever had (on his own words). Despite being now 'satisfied' he complains I have grown 'less romantic' and 'less caring', 'less emotional' and 'more sexual'. I dont understand why he keeps complaining now and the honey moon issue comes back from time to time and we end up having arguments about it. Is there a chance for us? How can I forgive him?
2006-10-23 04:58:25 · 5 answers · asked by Graça 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow...this is sad. You said you have always been honest with him, but are you always honest with yourself? What he did was very cruel and its understandable that you would be tough on forgiving him....but I think you used that energy to set out and prove him wrong by becoming a better sexual partner to him, but honestly....while you where doing all of that...dont you think he may be right and you lost out on the emotional aspect of the relationship in the process?? What good is being good in bed if you dont know how to make "love" to your mate? What good is it really???? Cause now, he has a sex partner, but he married the woman he loved and now she is not capable of returning that love....there has to be a balance and you need to find yours. You took it to extreme I think, try and get back to before the honeymoon when you enjoyed him holding your hand, try and bring back some of the romance by having candlelite dinners for two....kiss his out of nowhere...talk sweet, whisper in his ear. You need to remember what it was like to be in love with him again. Do things to fall in love again.
you also need to let go...holding grudges isnt good for anybody. Whats done is done...and as you can see, its not doing anything but hurtung you and your relationship. LET IT GO!!
2006-10-23 05:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie_6234 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the past and think for a few moments; if in the near future he was suddenly taken from you would you regret harboring these resentments and wasting time together or do you love him and want to make the most of every precious moment you can share now, then you will know your answer! No one knows what is just around the corner in life!
2006-10-23 12:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me you married a child instead of a man.
2006-10-23 12:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know that due to you lack of experience, everything you know about sex is based on him. If he never taught you how to be romantic, caring, and emotional during the act then how can you be.
2006-10-23 15:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly you might never, learn to move on harsh as it sounds
you deserve better
2006-10-23 12:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋