We are in our early 40s, but most people think we are about 10 years younger than that. I have what I think is a very healthy desire for sex with my man -- I would like it at least four times a week and every day would be just fine with me. He doesn't seem to need it that often, but also sometimes I know he has been jacking off. I find this very strange, given that he could have REAL sex with me.
2006-10-23 04:51:35 · 30 answers · asked by 70sChild 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
33 and 37. Everyday. Initiated by both. Her desire is almost as strong as mine if not stronger from time to time. Sex burns calories and promotes good health, not to mention it's fun. "Jacking off" is normal for men but, if he chooses to "jack off" instead of being with you I suspect there is a problem. Good Luck!
2006-10-23 04:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by denverbroncos1973 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well, I'm 43 and my fiance is 42. And we do it every night. I'm a true scorpio (so I have a very HEALTHY sex drive) and I could do it a couple times a night - so far, my fiance can hang with me., but what I find odd is that he also jacks off - cause sometimes I get home from work and see the porno DVD movie sitting on the t.v., and I wonder why he watches that and jacks off when we do it quite reguarly - but I don't sweat it.. . . I guess men will be men.
2006-10-23 05:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by Cris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have it 2 or 3 times a day and we are 42 and 43
2006-10-23 04:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by caplepore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We Do It 3 or 4 times a week.
2006-10-23 04:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by bob r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As many times as they want and can find the time for.
There is no set of rules for how much sex is appropriate. As for his masturbation, that is his business. I will never understand why women don't get that we men start masturbating when we are teenagers (if not before). It is a simple pleasure that we indulge in. For us it is different from sex with a partner. Assuming he hasn't simply lost interest in you, to have sex with you would require more effort and would limit the nature and scope of the fantasies he could employ to get off. He would, assuming he is at all sensitive, have to concern himself with your pleasure. When he is pleasuring himself, however, it is all about him.
Stop assuming that the reason he doesn't want sex with you is because he is pleasuring himself. That is simply not necessarily true. His diminished sex drive could be physical in origin (i.e. low testosterone, or his age). Remember that men and women do not hit their sexual peak at the time age. You want him to respond sexually like a teenager. He may no longer be able or be interested in doing it that much. 4 times a week or everyday is a lot, even for people in their 20s and 30s.
2006-10-23 05:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was an unusually active week, but last week we had sex 4 times, and it was about 2 hours of wildness Friday night. We're in our 40s.
Masturbation is just different because there are no expectations involved. Sometimes men like to relax and enjoy sex and selfishly not have to worry about anyone else's satisfaction.
2006-10-23 04:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I am floored and can't wait till I am 40something so that the kids are all at school and we can have sex more than 2x a week!! Dear Lord you all are busy!!
As for masturbating...baby, I masturbate daily...it's a HUGE stress reliever for me...I stay at home with the kids, don't smoke or drink but, get off at least 1x daily. It has nothing to do with what my husband is/isn't doing for me. It is all about ME!! I would love it if my H masturbated...I would watch and join in!
Let him catch you doing it, see what it does for him then...if he knew that you were doing the same I bet it would rock his world and you would be getting it a lot more!!! Good luck and far as I'm concerned...good for you two...keep it up!!!
2006-10-23 05:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by brickhouse_1974 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl....I think we have a similar problem! Darn-It!
I know sometimes my husband has this idea in his head it is all about me. I know he stresses out about making sure I get mine. (you know what I mean) I like to remind him a quickie is OK sometimes.
Surprise him by cleaning the kitchen in JUST you housecoat! Let him have a quick one on the table or sink. Clean the house in something sexy and revealing. Put on a sexy song in the CD player like"Money Maker" and shake you money maker for him. Ask him to stay in for movie night and plug in an adult movie. I like to turn on a pop radio station and dance around the house naked.
You know what your man likes. Give it to him. Your in your prime. You may have to be the initiator for a while. He will LOVE it!
Be creative, be aggressive and have FUN!! You should be totally enjoying this time in your life. Live it up!
If he still won't come around I think you two should have a serious talk about what is wrong.
2006-10-23 05:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each couple is different, so I will not give you an appropriate amount of sex you should be having. I will explain his solo performances. We men are very lazy. Sometimes it is just easier to do it ourselves. It's faster, everyone involved is pleased with the performance, and we can go to sleep immediately after wards. You should try it yourself when he is not in the mood, and you are feeling amorous.
2006-10-23 05:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wife an i 6 times a week, im 53 shes 40
2006-10-23 04:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋