My relationship with my husband is deteriorating with days..everyday we fight on the same issue and apparently for me he seems not to cares or just blind for christ sake..right now i'm pregnant..have pregnancy sickness a lot and as well very tired..we have a dog who is starting to get on my nerves..it's going too far and i can't take it anymore..cause i'm quite sick and tired of the situation..every night,the dog disturb us with her yapping and mourning cause she want to come out of her cage..everytimes we trust her out..she always destroy,poop or peep anywhere she wants..i'm fed up..i can't sleep at all at night..every single minutes..i have to tell her to shut up and have to find sleep again..whole night same scenario and it's repeating everyday..i work from 8am to 7pm everyday..when i come home..i'm hungry,tired and want to rest..she has poop in her cage and mess up ..i no more has patience to take care of a dog who is not hygienic at all..she just poop and peep where she wants.
2006-10-23 04:43:48 · 12 answers · asked by Cutelara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Though we have sent her to atraining school..nothing work..she never listen when ask her to sit,to stay or sleep..seems to me..she is acting master and we are to go through what she want..the real issue for time being..is with my husband..we fight about the dog everyday..i have told him whether to find another place for the dog or i'm out of here..my husband told me the door is opened..you can go and that he regret to have marry me..??? i'm hurt..he doesn't understand that i'm tires and i need rest..he doesn't even take care of me..i think that maybe i should leave the house..i can'tr go through like that..everytimes i want to discuss about the dog..he brought anothre topic..which haas nothing to do with the subject.what should i do????
2006-10-23 04:50:06 · update #1
Mu husband want ed a dog..i told him we'll think about it..no..Mr insisted..he said that he will take care of it which turn out to be me taking care of the bath,poop,pee and feed the dog..when i was not pregnant..it was fine..now it's a difference..i want to rest..i work hard and can't even rest properly...i'm going to be on my 3months and i'm already going through a lots of vomitting,dizziness,tireness..all the pregnancy symptoms..which for my husband is usual..i want to leave the house and go live elsewhere cause my husband take me for the bad one and is not seeing how annoying the dog is becoming..i want peace for me and my baby..i wake up eveyday with a headache and a bad sleep..everyday..The way my husband talk to me yesterday..it was clear that i'm wrong..he said that he regreted to have marry me..i'm a crazy woman and the i can leave the door is opened..i'm planning onto leaving..cause i need a mature husband..not someone who go tell his parent about his personal things.....
2006-10-23 04:58:14 · update #2
tell him its his dog and he must deal with it. let him clean the poo and pee. buy ear plugs and sleep on the couch and move the dog with the cage into his room. its very emotional cause you pregnant. men just dont understand and dont care too. but it will come back to them some day....
2006-10-23 05:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have lots on your plate and it is time to prioritize......
You need to give the dog up to the shelter, loving family, whatever...
If it not good to be around any fecal matter when you are expecting....
You need your rest and if you are not getting sleep you will feel terrible, crabby and just plain unwell.
Alot of the arguing with your husband might be a result of your failing health and rest...
Get these things done and see if there is a difference.
If there isn't and he is still a bear to live with, then perhaps you had better look at the situation you are in and decide what is best for this unborn child and you...
Do not be afraid to stand your ground.,. it takes two people to create a child... Either he loves and
respects you now and has empathy for your situation or he will continue this bad behaviour once you have a child... Then the child will suffer being around an angry environment.. you need to take a real close look.
First, get rid of the dog.........
2006-10-23 04:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband cares more about the dog than you. Isnt there like a marriage counseling place you can go with your husband and try to get him to listen to you.
Maybe you should go live with someone for a little while. Your husband may say that he dont care you go, but just wait until you are gone. He will have to care for the dog then, and he will then realize what a pain this dog really is, and he will realize what a jerk he is being for the way he treats you.
I am truly sorry that your husband treats you this way. Just try my suggestion and see what happens.
Besides you are much better off without him. If you stay, what will happen when the baby comes. Will you have to take care of everthing then too.
Your husband isnt being fair to you nor your unborn child to start taking care of you. And you need to step up and tell him what is what. Have a friend over who you are close with or someone in your family and tell your husband off in front of them.
That is just what I would do.
Good Luck.
2006-10-23 04:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's dog is it? Did your husband have it before you two were married? Why isn't he taking care of it? This isn't normal behavior for a dog to be that destructive, usually it's from lack of attention. If he doesn't care that much about having this dog, perhaps you could find it a different home? Maybe the dog has a medical condition that no one has looked into? Bottom line, you and the child should come before the dog. If having a healthy family is important to him, he should re-think his care of the dog, or find a different home for it.
2006-10-23 04:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings for you are right. My advice is give the dog to a friend or someone that can take care of the her. If your husband wants to keep her then tell him...look you need to take care of her because I don't have the energy to work, take care you, housework, and the dog while I'm pregnant. If you want to keep her then you need to be taking care of her the way that I do. Or we can give her away and try having pets at a time when I'm not so over whelmed.
2006-10-23 04:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by lil_wifey_lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
short term...ask some one to look after the dog, long term...when your baby arrives, you'll will be rushed of your feet even more....and has for hygiene...not good for you now, or when the baby arrives....harsh words i know but you might have to consider re-homing the dog...as for your relationship this will be a testing time for you both as you are pregnant...sounds to me that it's the dog that's the issue at the moment....see how you go with the dog not being at home
goodluck
and congratulations
2006-10-23 04:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you depending on someone else to take care of you? Why don't you take care of you? First of all...think about how your husband is acting towards you and what he said to you. Second...think about what is best for the baby (or fetus since it is not fully developed yet). Do you think that your husband will help with this? Considering how he is acting...I don't think so. So maybe you can either look into adoption or even abortion since you are not in a good situation. Once you deal with that...then you need to also take a closer look at your situation. If my man said those things to me...I would not think twice about it. I would be out of there. Don't put up with that. Take care of you and don't depend on anyone else to take care of you. good luck.
2006-10-23 06:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gee...that's a tough one...take the dog to a shelter or have it put down. Being pregnant should be tiring enough
2006-10-23 04:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the damn dog!!!! and tell your hubby to let her out of the cage if you keep her kick him out of bed if you have to.
but seriously id get rid of the thing can you only imagine what it would be like AFTER u have the baby and are passing out from even worse exhaustion?
2006-10-23 04:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think having a baby and an unruly dog will be much easier , you are saddly mistakes. it will only get worse.
GET RID OF THE DOG.
2006-10-23 05:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋