Is it possible that l can forgive a family member for the emmotional pain they caused me but yet l just can't bring myself to talking to or even being anywhere near them, l moved as far as l can to avoid any possibilities of bumping into her. But in my heart l'm truely convinced that l have forgiven this person. Can you forgive and yet still can't stand the person?
2006-10-23 04:41:28 · 5 answers · asked by G_Pac 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Absolutely, just because you've forgiven someone doesn't mean you like them now.
The question now is whether you want to like that person. Obviously, they've done something bad in the past that took a good amount of effort to forgive. If they weren't family, you probably wouldn't have to think twice about never talking to them again. How close are you to that part of your family? How often does the family (including that person) get together? Are you closely related, enough that you both show up at the same relative's house for Christmas? If so, then I would say try to make amends without physically being in contact. Talking to them on the phone or in person would be very emotional, but maybe you can send them a greeting card with a brief message saying that you would like to invite them back into your life, and you'll see them at the next family get together. Start small.
Or maybe you don't want to deal with that, and that's okay. It's not the first family feud to stop communication, and it won't be the last. Be comfortable with whatever decision you make.
2006-10-23 05:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You can forgive, but it doesn't mean you have to subject yourself to more punishment of a toxic person.
You did the right thing.
2006-10-23 11:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like a contradiction to me.....especially since its a family member.
2006-10-23 11:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just defensive cause you don't want to put yourself in that position again. It is natural for you to act this way. Just keep doing what your doing and let bygones be bygones.
2006-10-23 11:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by tjnw79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray to our father to give you courage an wisdom.
2006-10-23 11:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by MISSY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋