My husband has broken my trust over and over again. I have forgiven him every time because the lies were about little things that i could get over quickly. We have reached a point where i don't trust him at all and i am wishing i never married him. I love him so much and everything else about him is great, but i almost feel like i was dooped into marrying him. I am willing to stick with him, but i don't know how he is going to prove he is worth my trust. I feel like if i keep checking up on him and not finding anything then i will trust him, but every time i do find something. It is crazy stuff like emails under a different name. I feel like i don't know who he is. I do not want to leave him, but i know he will not change. We are starting counseling this week, but can anyone give me any other advice other then just biting the bullet and giving him my trust one more time.
2006-10-23 04:41:04 · 5 answers · asked by micah z 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take it from any woman that has been there and done that. Trust cannot be repaired once it is broken over and over and over again. If he wanted or cared about the trust issue he would have learned the first time he broke your trust and you let him know. He keeps doing it, he won't stop, and you may be able to forgive him somehow but you will never forget. The doubt will always be there unless you are in complete denial.
2006-10-23 04:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by micg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a very hard spot in the heart. So it is a very hard bullet to bite. Don't forget that know matter what you decide your priority is you and how you feel. Just bitting the bullet is a brave decision, but if its your choice. If he's constantly breaking your heart and keeping you out of his life (uknown emails), you must sit down and talk with him and tell him what is bothering you. If you don't, he will continue to do his regualar routine.
I know you love him and never want to let him go, but what is best for you. If you have a heart of metal and can ALWAYS defend your heart then you must do what you must do, but if you think it will continue, it's best to let the other half silp away. Not only for you, but for him. He needs to know that you where the best thing that he could or would lose! You really don't know till its gone!
2006-10-23 04:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by deadgrl6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off do like being miserable? if so than dont complain just lie in that bed of bull s@^&* and get comfortable. secondly if not then do something about. you can love him from a distance without putting up with his nonsense. nobody should have to feel like they have to stay in a situation that is not benefiting them emotionally or other wise.sounds to me that you may think that he is the best you can do. i am hear to tell you that you can do so much better. you can find a man that will hold on to your trust like it is precious and never make you feel as though you have to snoop. that is no way to live. i think you need to feel take a long look at yourself and ask yourself if this fair to me or the marriage? if the answer is no than you might want to consider doning something to change that. if you dont the man that you married now you probally never did. keep your head. remember you are queen and you deserve to be treated as such. and if that jester of yours cant do it then there are plenty of kings that will!!!!
2006-10-23 06:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by yaya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will continue to break your trust, because he knows that you will allow it.
I hope the counseling work for him, but most likely he will give the answers the counselor and you want to hear, then continue on his cheating ways.
My advise, get things in order and file for divorce, this will get his attention. He will either stop completely or just not give a sh*t and continue to hurt you. Good luck sweetie.
2006-10-23 04:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋