I have two friends (boyfriend and girlfriend) and we all go out to dinner quite often. My girlfriend always pays for her own meal and drinks. The only time he pays for her is if it's her birthday. It would appear they are just casual friends, right? Wrong. He lives with her in her house. Am I wrong in thinking he is just plain cheap and she has low self-esteem for putting up with him? Any advice I can pass on to her?
2006-10-23 04:28:02 · 13 answers · asked by Me, Myself & I 4 in Dining Out ➔ United States ➔ Boston
Since you asked, I am sorry to have to tell you that I really don't think that the financial arrangement they have established for themselves is really any of your concern.
I recommend that you refrain from sharing your unsolicited opinion to your friend.
2006-10-23 06:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by catherine02116 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may be going through hard times. But if it stays like that he could have some money issues that she may not be aware of. Maybe he is just a tightwad. Thats good in some cases, but does he help her pay the bills? If not he needs to get a job and start taking some responsibility. It sounds like this is a road leading to trouble. She should perceive this as a warning sign that he might be irresponsible. It depends on if he's contributing by paying for other things. Maybe they just pay for things indivually.
2006-10-23 13:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by pegasis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
He may not be cheap, so what if they r staying in the same house. I have seen couples who stay together but still they share everything.
This is b'coz now-a-days, females do not want to be dependent on their male partners, they pay for themselves to save their self-esteem.
U should be proud of ur friend(girl). It would be lowly on her part to accept any kind of monetary help from her boyfriend if they r not married yet(as I hope so).
2006-10-23 11:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by ritz! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paying their own expenses could be part of their financial arrangements. Now, if she were paying for everything then I would be having a talk with her but find out what their arrangements are before advising her about anything.
2006-10-23 11:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are living together then perhaps he is paying for other things like the rent for instance. You can't jump to conclusions based on limited observations...Clearly, she appears to be ok with the situation. Perhaps the real issue here is that you don't have a boyfriend and tag along with them on dates???
2006-10-23 12:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He seems a little self-centered. What is mine is mine and what is yours is mine. I really not know the whole situation. I have a woman friend, we have known each other for years as friends. I still look at our relationship as a give and take. Usually, when we go out, I tell her; "You drive and I buy", this works well for both of us, as she has the better car.
2006-10-23 11:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would see how the arrangements are before giving advice on dumping him. They may do this for a reason, or reasons you are not aware of. To me he seems cheap.
2006-10-23 11:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by cfoxwell99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the agreement they may have. I wouldn't jump to conclusions if I were you. That wouldn't be fair to him. Maybe he offered a long time ago and she said that she'd prefer to pay for her own stuff. I myself.....I would insist on paying for my woman, but that's just me.
2006-10-23 11:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by Ken 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on what agreement the two of them have with each other. If both are ok with it, why spend time worrying over it?
2006-10-23 13:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by logesn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not cheap, he's smart. If she's willing to put up with his nonsense, that's her problem.
2006-10-23 11:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by jinenglish68 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋