My husband and I have a terrific relationship---we were made for one another. The sex is awesome but the problem is his inability to *** from me giving a BJ. He says he has never been able to *** from oral sex. He said it feels like he could explode but it just won't happen. He says it feels soooo good and we don't understand what the prob is. I have tried everything I can think of.I have never had any complaints on my ability to perform orally on past boyfriends so what gives?????? What do we need to try now? Please be serious with me---I just want to be the one to rock his world when he finally cums from oral sex!!!!
2006-10-23 04:16:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
It's not unusual, I'm that way myself. I've only had one g/f that could do it consistently, and this is how she did it:
Started slow, just playing around and then slowly just kept building up the intesity and this what I think was the important part: She never broke or changed tempo, just kept building it up.
2006-10-23 04:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him talk you through it. A lot of times a guy is just too shy to tell you when something feels good and when it feels good but not exploding good. My girlfriend was terrific at oral but I just couldn't ***. And then she wanted me to tell her what feels good and what doesn't and bam. Also, if you don't allow him to *** in your mouth, that might be another reason as he doesn't want to do that without your permission. Communication is key to having explosive oral sex because you can't improve until you know what each other likes.
2006-10-23 04:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by acron_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Luv!
Man, do I feel for you honey! See, I had the same problem! If you have a few minutes, I'll tell you the story between myself and my hubby:
When we first met, he couldn't orgasm with me in any way; either via intercourse, oral, or just giving him a HJ; nothing worked... Then one day, he literally exploded inside me, and since then, he was able to orgasm through penetration.... However, if I gave him a HJ or a BJ, he couldn't ejaculate... And believe me, we tried and tried, and tried again....
Finally after a few years of living together and getting to know one another on a deeply sensual and sexual level, he finally was able to "allow himself" to have orgasms through other stimulations...
See, I think he's had these psychological "blockages" burried deep within his subconcious, from his childhood and teenage years, repressing his emotions and senses and all that.
Basically I thought there was something wrong with me, but it wasn't really the case; it was mostly him and his innability to "let go" for some reason....
Finally, through trial and error (although one rarely goes "wrong" orally!), he was able to orgasm through any and all types of stimulation... SO much so that these days, he has to hold off when I give him fellatio; he says it's so good he wants to enjoy it and therefore tries to hold back as long as he can, untill he explodes all over me! And even when he holds back, I don't think he was able to last more than 10 minutes (maximum) in my mouth.
So be patient my love! I believe he will one day be able to orgasm through your oral skills! Try this little hint: when he feels he's getting close, use your hand in combo with the oral stimulation; maybe the friction of your hand giving him a BJ/HJ combo will add that extra little punch required to push his excitement to the point of no return!
Practice practice practice!
Good luck honey!
2006-10-23 05:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by ButtahChick (ButterChick) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When having sex, make him pull out near the point of him coming and, if you dont mind the taste of your own sex, put him in your mouth. He should still be able to *** this way. Try this a few times and he should be able to orgasm when you give him blow jobs in the future.
2006-10-23 04:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by liamcorinne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to be dirty, but you should learn how to massage his prostate while giving him a bj. This can only be done by inserting your finger into his rectum and gently applying pressure directly to the prostate gland. This will bring him to the most intense orgasm of his life so be prepared for a mouthful.
2006-10-23 11:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... You should know the different parts of his perineum.. where guys are most likely sensitive or having arousal... Ok i'll give a tip.. one good area of the penis is the frenulum or the front area of the head, the neck itself...nerves are concentrated there... so try to suck it or fondle it with your tongue.. then the middle point of the anus and his balls... are arousal areas... try to press and rub that point gently.. do not use your nails ok?! that'll hurt cause nerves are concentrated there... try using techinique on his anus too.. well, that is if he likes the anus thing... and last.. while having a BJ.. try to rub his legs up to his 2 inguinal areas smoothly and gently by your hands... let him feel the warmth of your hands... and suck with passion... =>
2006-10-23 05:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by guapito_azucar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men do. We are all different, and need different levels/types of stimulation to reach orgasm. Just keep doing what you are doing - he clearly enjoys it. Since this has never worked for him, it's unlikely it'll start happening now.
2006-10-23 05:07:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 03:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by mehaffey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use two hands and a whole lot of spit *****.Just kidding.He might not be able to.Try watching a porno while you are giving him ****.It has always worked for me.
2006-10-23 04:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋