My biological father last week told me that he would no longer be a part of my life if I continued to date outside my race (white I assume). Thing is...he's half white and half Puerto Rican and told me only to date white men. I like a variety of different people because when it all comes down to it, its only our character inside that counts. He said he refuses to have a mulatto grandchild. Yes the majority of men I date are black, and yes I did grow u in the ghetto (with only my mother, no father around). Aren't fathers suppose to be around regardless of who someone is dating no matter one's skin color?
2006-10-23 04:15:58 · 7 answers · asked by jacqueline6001 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your dad's a racist. So's the guy who told you not to bring a mixed race child into the world because such a child wouldn't be accepted. That's nonsense.
And if your dad wasn't around to provide for you as a child, why would you give much credence to what he's saying now? If he cared so much about you, he'd have been there when you were young and really needed his support. Now he's letting you know that his love for you is conditional. Is that the kind of role model you want for your children?
Your dad's a relic. Tell him that you'll date whomever you want and if he can't accept that, then you don't want him in your life either.
2006-10-24 07:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by Rob B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating outside of ones race will certainly have some implication that have to be considered. Does your father really mean that he would turn his back on you for dating someone who is of another race or not. How much a part of your life is your Father. Which is more important to you. These are the things that you will have to decide. If he is mearly uncomfortable with the idea or is he really a racist. As to marriage and having children that is another decision. Mixed race children are quickly excepted by good families because all children a wonderful additions to any family. For now just do what you think is right and the rest will fall into place just as it should.
2016-05-22 01:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen whether you agree with your father or not you need to listen to him out of respect. He has probably seen more in his life time and he really only wants what is best for you. The last thing you want to do is to bring an interracial child into this world. That child going to school and growing up will be subjected to unbelievable racial remarks and not being accepted by either race. This is reality. Whether you like it or not. Then the child for whatever reason will have an unbelievable hard time in the real world when they grow up dealing with societal issues. Really out of all this you should at least have a little respect for the child and at least give them a chance to suceed in life. Most interracial relationships, I would say at least 95-99% end in total failure. If you do not believe me talk to your counselors at your local social services. They should tell you the truth and the facts.
2006-10-23 04:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is wrong in giving you the ultimatum but he is right. You should date within your race and if your half white then you should gravitate towards that. Like it or not it does take you on 2 different paths through life. You grew up in the ghetto but now is your chance to put that behind you.
2006-10-23 04:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg don't mind but ur question and ur father's attitude made me sick. if that is how people are going to be like, i don't think the world is going to be a nice place to live in. your father does not have to live with your boyfriend. you have to. what's wrong with the color black anyways? you father himself is a half-and-half. u know the correct thing to do is to see the character, not the colour, so WHAT IS THE PROBLEM? go ahead and make whomever u want as boyfrns or whatever.
unless ur dad is going to pay for ur married life, i don't think he should be interfering in such a pers. matter at all.
2006-10-23 04:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by thehelper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, parents should love and support you no matter what. But, we must remember parents are people, so they are not perfect. However, it is ignorant to not accept interracial dating. As I always say, people are people. How does skin color make them good or bad?
2006-10-23 04:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by noambition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what he is saying is a crime to humanity.
you should never judge someone by his race .
do not listen to your father about that, its totally wrong !!!
2006-10-23 04:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by mhk9626 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋