I have been married for 3 years now and my fella doesn't really seem interested in me anymore we still have sex and he still tells me he loves me etc, but he just doesn't seem to want me like he used to what can i do to catch his eye again??
2006-10-23 04:13:05 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It shouldn't be left to you to feel this way?
When was the last time he made an effort for you? Made you feel good about yourself?
To be honest... it will always be left to the woman to make things right.... Men are, on the whole, resonably simple... they like good food, good wine/beer, a woman who is willing to make them feel loved and needed and a sexual partner that will indulge their desires and provide all their sexual needs.
Sounds impossible?
Not at all..... if you can speak to your man, you can indulge his fantasies by talking about things you would like to do to him, with him, with others?!... It is his and your fantasy... tailor it to your preferences.
Any fun you have together should be sexy, loving and healthy... and should not necessarily be acted upon outside fantasy.
......And remember.... most men are excited by sexy clothing... Be sure to find out what your partner likes... and see if you can oblige.
But don't forget this is as much about you, as it is about him!
You go for it girl!
2006-10-23 10:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by nicci p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 15 years I too have felt this way (more than once!)
You just have to do small things.
Remember what he liked before you got married.
Surprise him sometimes. Join him in the shower when he is getting ready for work. Clean the house in something sexy. Leave a sex position book laying out on the dresser (by accident of course!). Show up at his work if you can with a single red rose. Ask him to stay in for movie night and surprise him with an "adult" movie!
What ever he might like. Just keep it fun! and remember ti really is about the little things!
2006-10-23 04:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the man really. Everyone's different. Sex is a part, how important it is is individual to every relationship. Some people have no sex before marriage right, how do you think they cope? Me, I probably couldn't for too long. I think the main thing most people look for in mature relationships is support. There's nothing better than getting home to find someone who's happy to see you and is willing to put up with your crap. Of course you have to put up with theirs but that's all part of the deal. Hmmm... Gotta say I miss it
2016-03-28 04:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest difference between sexlife during dating and living togther is that it becomes predictable...while you are dating you are always hoping to be able to sneak off together...after you mary you lay next to each other every night..... We try to keep it interesting by sneaking off at unusual places...another that keeps it hot is to tease with each other when there you are someplace that you cant do anything about it...next time your out somewhere with him....sneak in a quick rub and tell him what you are gonna do to him at home..believe me the ride home will be intense.... nothing gets a guy going like the woman being agressive
2006-10-23 04:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has just gotten comfortable with you. Have you told him it feels like he is not interested in you anymore? Key point in any marriage is communication. Have you changed anything you used to do? Try remember what sparked both your interests when you first met. Do some things you used to do. Good Luck
2006-10-23 04:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always make sure you look good, be a cook in the kitchen, a complete sl*t in the bedroom and a lady in company. Tease him, wake him in the mornings by gently licking his penis, kiss him gently all over, especially his inner thighs, wear a nice basque and silky stockings, gosh I could go on forever, learn to use your imagination, believe me he'll never lose interest, not ever.
2006-10-23 10:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start working out hardcore. Maintain a nice firm figure take care of your body and what you put in it. Get yourself involved in a sport, when he sees how hot you are he'll want you all the time. It worked for me, and I'm sure it will for you too. Buy cute outfits and also check out Carmen Electra's striptease dvds, and you will have him wrapped around your lil' finger. It's all about the sex appeal;)
2006-10-23 04:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing with men is that they like novelty, and that is hard for a woman to achieve. I suggest you read the book The Rules for Marriage. It really is full of lots of suggestions for the WHOLE of marriage - not just sex.
2006-10-23 20:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the sex just "the same ol' sex"? If there are no problems else where in the marriage- this could be it. Talk it out and try to resolve the issue before he goes else where.
2006-10-23 04:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by gittit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps try to act more like you did when you dated. Remember the simple things like a stolen moment, spontaneous passion, long lunches, etc.
If all this fails, give counseling a try. There might be more deep rooted issues which he is not sharing.
2006-10-23 04:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋