I have been with my partner for 2 1/2 years. She has a 5 year old daughter from a previous relationship. We moved away from her family two years ago and moved into a nice area & everything seemed to be going well. Her daughter started school and we were really getting on as a family and planned to get married next year. About 3 months ago she decided that she missed her family and so she took her daughter out of school and moved them both back in with her mother. Her daughter has now started at a new school but seems to be having a few problems settling, which under the circumstances, is unsuprising. She has asked me to move to the area so that we can set up home nearer to her family but I really don't know what to do for the best. All of this has already been unsettling for her daugher and I don't want to create any further confusion. I love them both very much and I do consider the little girl as my own. I can give them a good life but my partner is being very impulsive of late...
2006-10-23 04:08:06 · 4 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First off....Do you love her? if your first impule was to say yeah then you know what you need to do, move back to be closer to her, help her daughter get settled and be near her, she is pry just wanting to be close to her family because she is kind of scared about starting out a new life, especially if she has a daughter, she is probably worried about what the effect is going to be on her if things don't work out with you, she's pushing you away while keeping you close just to test the limits so she can tell if you're going to run at the first sign of trouble. So if you love her and you want to be with her, go be with her, move back, get a place somewhere kind of near her family, let her stay with her family for a while and work through things, but be near her emotionally and physically.
2006-10-23 04:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you realy love each other then distance and location should not be a problem. you should sit down together and come to some kind of agreement where you are going to live and it should be agreeable to both of you. it may have been that she didnt want to move away in the first place and did so because she loves you. did you discuss the move before hand or was it your decision.
she may want to be closer to her family and maybe for her daughters sake. try to work it out together there may be something else bothering her that she didnt tell you. be prepared for anything but stay open.
2006-10-23 04:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by bigantbigant13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move 2 b with her.
2006-10-23 04:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by lakersfan_4life1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she donest think you want to marry her?
Do soemthing out of the ordenary run off to Vegas if you have to.
2006-10-23 04:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋