OK, I was stupid. I moved from my home to another state, met some girl, and asked her to marry me. Red flags went up the first date, and I should have bailed then. She has 4 children, all ages. The oldest is always going to jail for something.
But that's not all. She is a slob, but works hard. She also has her mother living with us who is repulsive. I sold my home and moved in with her a year ago. Every one in the house is a slob. I feel bad and try to help out but it's no use. We got divorced, but still live together.
On top of this, I got an email from some female friend that I've known for 15 years and she went crazy and was drinking and taking all of my stuff and throwing it outside.
I've been trying to get out for a while, but I'm still attracted to her.
I was just ready to get out for good, and while I was away on business, she fell off a ladder and broke her foot. No insurance, I feel guilty. She always makes me feel guilty. I want out and want my life back. HELLLLP!!!!
2006-10-23 03:54:06 · 20 answers · asked by musicbelfast 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have some guts man, pack your bags and walk out of there (obviously you have to provide for any of the kids that are yours) but feeling guilty or sorry for someone is not a sound basis for a relationship. Just make the arrangements and leave. Of course it is hard, but if I can do it (and I'm a girl!!!!) then you can do it too.
2006-10-23 03:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know.....life is what you make of it!! This woman and her family sound extremely dysfunctional, however, you can only be responsible for you! At this point, you are making a choice to stay with her, so I guess you have to deal with it! If you truly wanted out, you would be out! You are making lame excuses and trying to justify being with a nut case! Truth is, it seems like you enjoy the drama! "I've been trying to get out, but I'm still attracted to her." "We got divorced, but still live together." "She fell off a ladder and broke her foot, now I feel guilty." Come on man!! It really is simple. Pack your bags, get in your car, and drive far, far away!! You have no ties to this woman, correct? No children? BYE!! See ya!!! Gotta go!!!
Be responsible for YOU!! Stop playing the "poor me, what will I do" role and grow some balls!
2006-10-23 05:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something must be wrong with you. You let yourself become attracted to this women and all the things that came along with the relationship. You are still attracted to a slob. I thought men wanted a nice clean tidy home. It sounds like you guys are the Bervely Hillbillies
2006-10-23 04:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew! You certainly have a lot going on. What I really think you should do is move out as soon as you can, stay away from the woman who is emailing you and spend some time alone. Get your own place, keep it clean and neat and get your thoughts together. Don't think about getting another partner for awhile. Get you life straightened out first. Relax and clear your head.
2006-10-23 04:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen Man,
You come first; therefore if you are feeling trapped let her know and run for your dear life!!!!! Love is a b.... at times ,but you have to do what you have to do for your own self presevation. You can love her but, love her from a distance. You don't have to live with her or her slobbery kids!. Let her know that she needs to pull up her socks, and get those nasty kids in order once and for all or you will be moving on. PS. iF THE KIDS ARE NOT MINORS MOVE OUT JUST YOU AND SHE. Let me know if this helps. Good Luck.
2006-10-23 04:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by GARN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this man rather is aware of approximately longer term relationships, NOT Maybe he is looking to beat the list for probably the most youngsters to exclusive ladies Or possibly he cannot preserve it in his pants and so movements directly to the following lady after he will get one pregnant Sorry to wreck it to you however do not anticipate this dating to final If "we" do certainly wish to have child then ask him approximately marriage first Has he ever been married?
2016-09-01 01:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really wanted out you would have left already. You love her. If you can't get over the slob part of her than move out and keep seeing her. You CAN have your cake and eat it too, unless of course she isn't for it. But then you're back to square one. Confront her. Tell her to either pick up or you're getting out. Women usually react to ultimatums if you're stern.
2006-10-23 04:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by rowster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer. You said several times that you want out and want your life back. So stop feeling guilty for wanting those things for yourself and just do it. THe sooner you do it the easier it will be on everyone, sounds like you're just dragging it out.
2006-10-23 03:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by so.good 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Does she have a chain around your neck and is forcing you to stay there?
She guilts you because you LET her. And she'll keep guilting you and using you as long as you LET her.
So pick up your stuff, get some pride, and walk out. It'll be rough, but you're not responsible for her anymore. She was screwed up when you met her, and you can't "fix" her.
2006-10-23 04:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person's permission that you need to leave this crazy mess is your own permission. Personally I would of left a long time ago. Gotta take care of Numero Uno.
2006-10-23 04:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋