How to stop a baby of 10 mos from screaming and showing her temper. I didn't expect this and can't handled it.

Question

Please someone tell me what I can do. Is it teething? I am catering and nurturing but as soon as I am not focused on her she will demand my attention. I am exhausted. thank you in advance for any suggestions.

Answer 1

The truth is tantrums are a very frustrating part of parenting. Take a cold glass of water and throw it in their face. They will be startled but not hurt and the tantrums will cease. The very instant that they stop tell them "Mommy loves you and you don't need to do that anymore."

If they do it again get down on their level and say, "You will get a time-out." The time out will last one minute for every year of life. When the time out is over tell them, "The reason you had a time out is because you had a tantrum. If you do not want the time out then do not do the tantrum." This works for other misbehaviors as well.

Answer 2

I am sorry that you are having such a hard time. Being a mom is tough. The scream that a 10 month old gives when they are having a fit goes right through your heart. At 10 months old your baby can only communicate with you by crying, and it might be teething, it might be that she is scared. I highly recomend that you get help so you can have some down time for you to catch up on your sleep. When you are sleep deprived you aren't thinking as clearly as you would be if you had all of the sleep you need. Maybe you would know the answer to your own question if you weren't so frazzled. The only thing I know for sure is that every child will grow up and when they are 16 and in trouble you will remember the happy days when they cried because they wanted you.

Answer 3

I see a lot of people suggesting to leave the baby to take a walk or go to the store. This is a very bad Idea and can get your child taken away from you. NEVER leave a child alone to even take a walk!!!! If you must, go outside to do yard work but bring the baby monitor and make sure to check on her every so often and make sure she doesn't see you. Even in a playpen a Baby can get hurt!!! I am sure you know all this but I wanted to put it on here so that the people who said to do that see that it is very wrong!!!
I also know how you feel. My 3 year old son has a lot of health problems and has always been very needy and always cries when he cant see me.
You are right she is probably teething too so that doesn't help the matter. Have you tried teething tablets? Even if she is not teething the tablets will calm her. They are not medicine so you don't have to worry about her having nasty side effects. You can Give her a cold wash cloth too.
Good luck and if all else fails buy ear plugs!!!

Answer 4

I have a 10 month old as well- in hte past month he got 5 teeth- so it may very well be teething. I think too though they know what thwy want now, but still don't know how to express themselves other than screaming and crying. Just make sure nothing else is wrong with her(sickness, teething, etc.) when she throws these fits see if there is something she is trying to get or if there is something she is trying to tell you. Try not to run to her every time she is freaking out- that will just teach her, "if I cry my mom comes and gets me." If you are stressed out put her in her crib and let her cry while you take a breather. Everyone gets frazzled and when I do I call a friend and put my baby in his crib. Talk to your doctor on your next visit. Hopefully it's just her teeth- hope this helps a little!

Answer 5

Have you ever tried playing some soothing music for her? Sometimes when a baby hears things going on around her she can get annoyed and the only way she can tell you is by screaming. She could also be teething. There could also be something medically wrong with her. My nephew had this problem and we found out that he was allergic to wheat and as soon as my ex sister in law cut out all wheat out of his food he was fine.

Start with soothing music or even get one of those sound machines that play different noises such as rain, water flowing, something that is going to draw her attention off of you. If that doesn't work and seems to get worse then I would see what a doctor might say about the formula (if not breast feeding) she is having or even if she is teething. You need to take time for yourself as well because if you allow her tantrums to get to you, you could end up doing something that is totally out of your nature.

An old friend of mine got upset with her newborn son and ended up braking his leg because he was crying all the time and this was totally out of her nature.

Answer 6

First of all, you need to make sure that your baby isn't crying due to a medical problem. Take her to the doctor, and tell him what's happening. He would be the best person to give you advise on your baby. If it's not medical, get her a walker, the round ones are really great, and give the baby good mobility, and should keep her happy for long periods of time. Put a couple of toys on the tray, and she'll enjoy herself. This way baby can be in the room you're in, but still be able to move around easily.

Answer 7

As long as you're sure her real needs are met,simply ignore her howling. If you keep jumping up and down every time the little tyrant wails you'll only spoil her and make you both miserable.Put her in playpen,with a few soft toys, and go about your business.

I was a teacher for almost sixteen years,and I have never seen a case of a child dying from crying.

Answer 8

Unfortunately there's not much you can do. I have three daughters and it's tough when they reach that stage, but sometimes you have to let them cry it out. Try getting her focused on something else, there comes a point where she has to learn that she cannot have you 24/7. It's a really hard lesson for little ones to learn and it's especially hard on the parents trying to teach it. It took us about two months of letting our oldest cry it out until she finally got to where she would play by herself while I did laundry or dishes or something in another room. It's hard, but hang in there, it does get better.

Answer 9

beginning at 10 months a child starts to figure out how the world works.. They need to begin a portion of their emotional development to figure

http://www.ship.edu/~cgboeree/erikson.html

Erikson describes autonomy vs shame and doubt as a psycho-social stage, where significant relationships are with the parent and the child is trying to determine whether to to hold on, to let go, during this time the child develops several key values, of will and determination,

I would recommend you look into a Love and Logic parenting class, My wife and I both took a 6 evening seminar put on by these people and it was magic.

http://www.loveandlogic.com/

Answer 10

Can you give more details about what is going on? Are there situations that seem to trigger the behavior? Remember, this is still the child's main way to communicate. It might be helpful to begin trying to teach baby sign language along with speech. Kids pick up signing quicker and that can aleviate a lot of frustration because they can communicate better.