2006-10-23 03:48:47 · 17 answers · asked by mecoachyou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's often a bad idea for many reasons, but when a company I worked for started making their policy, they realized that many people in the company met and married people from work.
Check your company policy (some outlaw dating period), and be sure you aren't in one of the special danger areas (one of you works for the other, you work closely together on a daily basis, one of you is married, etc.). Most companies interpret the rule on 'unwanted sexual advances' to mean that you can be freindly, and ask ONCE for a date, but that repeated invitatations, rude innuendos, disrespect and being too persistent are no-nos.
2006-10-23 03:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Workplace relationships (or an affair in your case) is never, ever a good idea.
1. Read your employee manual and see what it has to say about workplace relationships. If they are forbidden, then engaging in one could mean the end of your job.
2. If you are found out and fired, how will you explain the termination to prospective employers?
3. If the affair goes sour, or you just want to end it, you have to see that person EVERY SINGLE DAY. They may not take it too well.
4. You can just about guarantee that your co-workers will find out.
5. If you are starting this affair with a subordinate, she could call it harassment, even though it was consensual. You'd have to defend yourself against that and poor decision-making as a manager / supervisor.
6. If you are starting this affair with a manager /supervisor, you can claim harassment but also be fired for not adhering to company policy.
7. Why would you want to get involved with someone who's willing jeopardize their professionalism?
8. If this is an affair, why can't you have one with someone outside of the workplace?
9. How do you know she wouldn't make your life a living hell if things shouldn't work out? What if she's not discrete?
If you have to ask, you already know this is a bad idea.
2006-10-23 10:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No means no... you walk a tight rope there. It is not harassment if you flirt, it is if you do not stop when she says to. Do not be forward, do not be offensive, and keep your hands to yourself. In a non-threatening way ask her if she wants to do something outside of work. If she says no take it as no. Is it someone under you? If so, I would say this is a really bad idea. You are walking into a bad situation. If it is just some coworker, be careful. A lot of companies have policies against this. Be prepared for the fallout. I would say forget it. But if it is what you to do then be open, and careful. Again... no means no.
2006-10-23 10:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Craig B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep your job I would leave business time just that. IF you happen to see that person out then try to initiate something. Unless she comes to you. Be careful though because in the end it will be a pain in the work place anyhow.
2006-10-23 10:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by brunette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU DON'T. So avoid initiating an office affair.
2006-10-23 10:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Office affairs are not good for you. Affairs are not good for you. Why don't you think about love, long-term commitment, marriage, and true joy?
2006-10-23 10:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by bwlobo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Office affairs are not a good idea...
2006-10-23 10:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Earn the confidence of your interested party first.Try to understand the mind & feelings.
2006-10-23 10:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by ROUGHPANTHER 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you value your job, then take a cold shower and forget about it. Your asking for big, big, trouble.
2006-10-23 10:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
U dont! never fish off the company pier. Dont do that to yourself.
2006-10-23 10:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by dunebugger 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋