A friend tells me i'm obsessed with a guy that i fell in love with and separated from about three years ago. I cant get over the guy, i'll give anything to have him back even if he has HIV/AIDS. Is this obsession or true love.
2006-10-23 03:42:12 · 19 answers · asked by Sammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you have to ask, its obsession
2006-10-23 03:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by mizz_toree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know the true answer to that one. Sometimes though we can look on the past through rose tinted glasses and be in love with the person we remember them to be (only the good bits) and not the person they actually were! Its becomes an obsession when it takes over your life and thoughts constantly - is it stopping you from getting on with the rest of your life? It is love when you care so much about that person that you want the best for them and accept their views and wishes - even if you are not a part of them.
2006-10-23 03:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same, i separated from my ex about 3 months ago and i loved him and still do, I would love to get back together with him but i know he has moved on and is with someone else so i am doing the same.
I think that i will always love my ex as he was my first true love but at the end of the day i know that he is happy now and i am happy for him.
I think obsession is when you can not bear the thought of what your partner wants, it tears you apart that he is happy and getting on with his life
But i think love is when you can let someone go and be glad for them that they are happy even thou it does hurt you.
2006-10-23 03:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is obsession and STUPID!!!! Hiv/Aids?? That is a little extreme! You have serious self-esteem issues. There is NO ONE worth dying for (other than your children)!!
True love cannot exist unless two people feel the same way about each other. Mutual trust, respect, and commitment are what make true love. It sounds like this guy has moved on. I strongly suggest you get some counceling and do the same!
2006-10-23 03:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Obsession by definition is a compulsive preoccupation with a fixed idea or an unwanted feeling or emotion, often accompanied by symptoms of anxiety. It is a characterized by a painful psychological fixation on the idea of him. It is one -way.
On the other hand, true love is painless and MUTUAL!! Key word is MUTUAL. True love is never going to happen here because he has moved on.
It is unfortunate that you feel this way...you should FIXATE on something positive. Imagine what you could do with that energy if you changed your focus to something good.
2006-10-23 03:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by NoPeace4Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a bad infection called LOVE. Though in love sometimes you become obsessive about another person. That doesn't mean you are having obsession.
Trust me do whatever your heart and mind says.
Don't listen to us fool's who don't have the exact knowledge how you feel about the guy.
GO GET HIM........Its what your heart says to you....
2006-10-23 03:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by Maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that if you truly love this man...you will let him go...I know that is such a cliche thing to say...but it is true when they say if you love something set if free...if it comes back it is yours...if not it was never meant to be
It is great that you would be with this man through anything at all...but the question you need to ask is...would he be with you through anything at all?...
Stalking to me would be if you are sitting outside his house...making phone calls to him all hours of the day or night....leaving messages constantly...trying to be everywhere he is all the time...having him tell you that he doesn't want to be with you anymore and all you hear is that there may still be a chance...
To love him...you would want the best for him...even if that means...letting him go to be with someone else...
So think about it...are you willing to let him go?...are you willing to sacrifice what will make you happy to make him happy?...if you can and will do that...then I would say that you love him...Let him go...if it is meant to be...he will be back...hope this helped and good luck to you :)
2006-10-23 03:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by Luv_bunny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 years is a bit long for an obsession!! I think you need to resolve whatever other agenda's you have with him first!! Have you given other relationships a go?? 3 years is a long time to be wating yearning to be with someone.. You need to do some soul searching and ask yourself why you feel like you need to be with him so badly..Is it guilt or is it Love.. Think carefully first
2006-10-23 03:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is purely obsession, my dear, and i'm really sorry to say that to u. Real love is all about giving, not receiving. If you had really loved him it shouldn't have mattered you whether u get him or not.
So if u think u really love him let him be in his world, happy and satisfied and you will discover happiness in his.
2006-10-23 03:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obsession is when it scares you and makes you feel uneasy. And love is when you feel totally relaxed and at ease nothing seems too worry you.
You will know love when it hits, its deep inside and when it ends you hurt soooo much!
2006-10-23 03:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋