is it bad to have a 4 month old and be prego again? had any one been in that situation and was it really hard? i would love to hear about ur experiences?
2006-10-23 03:35:08 · 15 answers · asked by kamdens mommy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The absolute best spacing for your body and for healthy children is 18 months, according to medical journals. I forget where I read it. My daughter was 19 months when my son was born. I totally wasn't prepared for how hard it is.
I am age 40. Had daughter when I was 38 and son at 39 within a month of turning 40.
I got pregnant when my daughter was 11 months. I was so tired because of the pregnancy and the entire time, my husband had to become her playmate and take her on walks because I didn't have any energy. I was afraid that she would hate me, but we're ok now.
When the baby was born, she was very jealous and tried to hit me and the baby. But, now he is 5 months old and she is in her terrible twos. It's very difficult, but fun, too.
Your situation is a little different. Yours will be turning 1 when the baby is born. That baby will be starting to get into everything and should be talking a little.
Just make sure that you give both babies time. Make sure you have Mommy time for the 1 year old because they need reassurance that they are still loved.
You have to be careful not to treat them like they are a big girl or boy. Just because they were born first, doesn't mean they should lose their "baby" status. They still are babies. You have to adjust to having two "babies."
Buying diaper for two is expensive. Make sure you buy them by the case. Just think, you get to use all that baby equipment that you bought! You will really get your money out of it.
My daughter loves her brother. If I try to take her shopping, when I put her in the car, she asks me to bring her brother. It's really sweet. They'll grow up very close.
You just have to be prepared for a very tough 3 or 4 years ahead. Actually, I've been told it doesn't get any easier, but I'm thinking it's got to get better when they reach about 4 years old.
:)
Best of luck.
2006-10-23 04:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's only 14 months between my brother and me.
Apparently my mum got a few "tuts" from her midwife, but that was a long time ago. (he's 30 and I'm 29)
My mum was fine. She got a tummy bug whilst pregnant with me, and lost some weight but she was ok and so are me and my brother.
I also had a friend who got pregnant within 2 months of delivering!!! I thought she was mad, lol. The children and herself are 100% fit and healthy.
Try and take it easy, and get plenty of rest. Not easy when you already have a baby, but hopefully you have family and friends who will help. xxx
2006-10-23 10:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by stiflersmom29 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not bad! granted, it's going to be more difficult (and costly) for you than the average new parent, but it's not bad! they key is to getting both kids on a schedule, best case scenario would be to have their schedules in sync, but you'll get to that point once your new baby gets older. one of the hardest parts is going to be giving each child the individual attention that they want, but in the long run, it'll teach them both to be more independent (which will definetly pay off when it's time for them to start walking, potty training, ect.) and an extra bonus, once your new baby's old enough, you're kids will always have someone to play with. it's going to be difficult, and there will be some days you'll feel like ripping your hair out, but try your best to be patient and keep a level head on your shoulders. congrats and best of luck!
2006-10-23 11:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad at all. My first two daughters are 10 months and 3 days apart from each other. They are great together!! We didn't plan it that way, but sometimes there's a greater plan in store for us. I don't know anything different, but take it day by day and you'll manage. It's a wonderful experience if you ask me :)
2006-10-23 10:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by justwondering 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Provided you can financially support another child and have the energy to deal with two babies, it's not bad at all! After caring for a high-needs baby, I know I couldn't handle two babies close in age.
2006-10-23 10:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by dr_imzadi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens and you and your baby will be fine. It's not the ideal situation, but my brother was born on my first birthday, and we both turned out great. Just keep eating healthy and see your physician to get the best prenatal care.
2006-10-23 10:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my cousin had a 4th month old when she had gotten pregnant for the second time....she said it was kinda hard bc her husband went to work during the day and she had to take care of the baby and she was really tired and all that stuff.good luck
2006-10-23 10:38:40 · answer #7 · answered by Katie Ann S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my friend did this, she is even nursing one and plans to nurse bothat the same time. It is possible, your colostrum comes back in when it is time for a newborn. It is neat. It is also a great way to wean if your baby does not like the taist of colostrum. Good lick
2006-10-23 10:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, every and any child is a blessing.
Your two children will bond better together and grow up with similar interests as they will both be at the same age,
2006-10-23 10:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think no, your children will be near of ages and it's good! And you love with your partner is good!
If you can support two little sons at the same time...
2006-10-23 10:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by Camilla カミイラ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋