Our sex life is amazing and I love him and everything that he does to me but I just want to try some new things? Should I ask for sex toys or be thankful for what I have already?
2006-10-23 03:25:30 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's impossible to say - it all depends on his attitude towards such things. How openminded and adventurous is he about sex? He could find it really exciting, or he could take it to mean that he alone isn't enough for you. You might want to just bring up the topic in conversation first, without actually asking to use them, and just see how he reacts before deciding whether to ask him or not.
2006-10-23 03:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anna S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys will feel there is something you are not satisfied with if you ask for sex toys. I have gotten sex toys for every woman I've spent much time with, and for some I haven't spent time with. not because they needed it, but because I know they enjoy them very much in other ways than having sex would be. most women enjoy the vibrations more so than size. It's just a point of view from a secure mature male. Get one and hide it I would suggest. Good luck
2006-10-23 03:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by Tom B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can guess how he will react. One thing you could try is to find an adult movie with scenes of men and women using toys in their sex. You could watch the movie together and use it as a springboard to the conversation. Alternatively, you could buy a few things and build to it, rather than spring the whole toolbox on him all at once. If you can find a way to involve him in the process, maybe by telling him you have this fantasy, he would surprise you and get into it. Reassure him that you are not necessarily looking to use anything on him, in case that is his worry. I have a few more ideas but I don't want to get an yahoo answers violation. Contact me if you like.
2006-10-23 03:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to try something new to mix it up a little and then go shopping together to pick out the proper toys. The shopping part is part of the excitement that you can share. Plus you don't want to bring home something that is going to scare him out of the bedroom and I'm sure you can think of a few things that you'd be afraid he'd bring home that you wouldn't like. And just make it clear that you love what you have but sometimes you just would like to add a new ingredient to the mix.
2006-10-23 03:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should love the idea, but try to make it sound as if he came up with it. Do a google search on "Ravenous Rabbit"..it's a great sex toy! Say "Honey, look at this silly thing".. take it from there.
2006-10-23 03:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by kam_1261 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he'll be offended. He might be thinking the same thing of you. Just go for it. Its fun to use sex toys and theres nothing wrong with trying new things.
2006-10-23 03:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by Angelo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband loves the fact that I brought sex toys into our relationship. He loves watching me use them and using them on me...it makes foreplay even better. He even likes going to the stores with me to buy them and picking things out for us to try. Maybe we're just a kinky couple like that but don't be afraid to approach the subject. If you already have a vibrator, perhaps start asking him if he wants to watch you (if he's touchy about you using it mention you just bought it for him to watch you, or it's from a time before him). Odds are he'll probably say yes. As long as he's the one giving you the orgasms he'll probably be okay with it.
2006-10-23 03:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation, w/o the sex toy deal. I love my man and our sex life is off the chain. In your case, I would not ask right off. First I would get his standpoint, never admit to him that you would like to use a toy. Make an example like one of your friends or family members was having that problem and get his viewpoint like " my sister and her man was using her dildo and he made a mistake and put it....... " and then that's when you ask him " That's crazy, isn't it" See what he says, then ask him "u don't like that kinky crap DO YOU? Works every time girlfriend!!!
2006-10-23 03:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by Lesley G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sex life is already amazing, think of how excited he will be when you bring this subject up. Think of all the ways you can ..... Yes definately try new things , he will thank you for this.
2006-10-23 03:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are intimidated by sex toys....they think they are being replaced. So introduce it as a game where he takes the lead and uses it on you......we all love games.
2006-10-23 03:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋