I enjoy the extra time when my ex is late, as much as two hours but I ask her if I can have extra time with the kids and she always says no. I don't want to argue over it but how can I work this out without expensive lawyers?
2006-10-23 03:24:11 · 6 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are keeping the kids a little more time than the court allowed, don't make any waves!!! One day she'll need help, and tell her sorry I'm too busy!!
2006-10-23 03:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by alfonso 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband ex girlfriend is the exact same way. If it benefits her, it's fine. If it benefits my husband (or even their son) the answer is always NO. There's nothing you can do. Yes you could have her held in contempt for being late (in his agreement anything over 30 minutes is contemptible) but who's that going to help? Just enjoy what ever extra time she gives and keep quiet, unless you want to get a lawyer to have the visitation agreement changed, that's the only thing you can do.
Time hasn't improved our situation. It's been 9 1/2 years since they broke up. nothing's gotten better as far as their son's visitation is concerned. She's even remarried with another kid. It's all about control and she has it and wants us to know it. Sorry, women can be bitches sometimes...........
2006-10-23 11:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what. Your experience is normal, as most ex-spouses aren't interested in giving even a smidge between each other.
My advice is to look for opportunities where it is obvious that the children's best interests are served by your request, and only ask then. For example, in my 50/50 custody situation, I only ask my ex for time when my family is in town on her weekends, or important things like that. And -- this is important -- I offer a trade for other days/hours. Over time she has come to trust that I am not trying to steal time away from her and is much more flexible in meeting those requests. It took three years to get from "always no" to this point though.
Meanwhile, consider yourself among the lucky few that you get that extra time with your kids, and good luck to you.
2006-10-23 10:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by HeartSpeaker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is controlling the situation. It is definitely a control issue. You could go to family court about it--you don't need a lawyer.
2006-10-23 13:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by draws_with_crayons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't rock the boat!...enjoy the time you have extra with your kids!.....congrats to you for being a good dad too....not many of you about!
don't know how long you have separated, but it will get easier im' sure
2006-10-23 10:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why should she try to do you any favors?
2006-10-23 10:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋