I have been with my husband for 6yrs we have sex 4 or 5 times a yr.he refuses to go to the doctor.I need good sex,but I love my husband.What should I do?
2006-10-23 03:23:58 · 17 answers · asked by fernwood 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband needs to see a medical Dr, and a phych Dr. What are his reasons for not wanting to have sex with you? Make sure is isn't you, if it is you, your husband should be man enough to tell you what the problem is. He should want to resolve the situation what ever it is. If not, then you ask him what you should do. Sex and intimacy is not enough to build a strong marriage on, but is sure is enough to break one. God designed marriage so that we could form a bond through intimacy and become one, if the bond was there but it is now gone, you need to come together and get it back into play.
2006-10-23 04:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend either finding a friend online you can have conversations with and self pleasure yourself or eventually working into phone calls discreet from your husband of course this way it would not be a physical affair or have an affair very discreetly with a very close friend that understands you love your husband and need it to remain confidential. Sometimes no matter what the effort to keep a marriage together the emotional wear just becomes too much don't let it change who you are in your soul
2006-10-23 04:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jessi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this becoming an epidemic? My husband is the same and I've read of other women on here with the same issues.
I've told my husband, either it changes, or I'm gone. Our relationship is more than sex, but sex is important. I don't think I want to live in a marriage where I have to go completely without it.
my opinion
2006-10-23 03:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy toys, it's not as good as the real thing, but it's better than cheating. Men are very sensitive about their sexual performance, their penis, really anything related to sex and their ability to deliver. Be supportive and sweet, but keep urging him to see a doctor. 4 or 5 times a year is not a normal sex life. Good Luck
2006-10-23 03:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time for the "talk". The one where you give him the opportunity to make a change. Tell him that this level of affection. intimacy, love and sex is not doing it for you. You are giving him the warning to make some changes or you will and he might not like them. Let him know you are serious and committed to positive change. Offer to help him in this effort and wish him to start with a physical. His willingness or lack of it will tell you your next step.
He has to know you love him and do not wish to leave but that you cannot see yourself staying for the long term with this condition.
2006-10-23 03:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to sit down and talk. Find out what's going on with him. Maybe something in his past? Perhaps marriage counseling if he won't go to the doctor. If he loves you and is still interested in having sex with you then he'll exhaust all efforts to fix the problem and save the marriage. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-23 03:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. I am a woman and I have always wanted to try out with another woman. If you are willing we can have nice soft se_x together. I will go down on you and make sure you get multiple orgasms. If you are willing I can have my BF join in too. He is very well endowed and last for ever.
2006-10-23 03:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Tell him that the current situation is unacceptable to you and if he does not get help then you want a divorce...
2006-10-23 03:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Start reading the newspaper clasified... Your hubbie may be doing the same thing...
2006-10-23 03:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by bettiewoeswoes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start things orally.
2006-10-23 03:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by FF Geek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋