I believe that he wants to be married and single at the same time. My husband has decided to give this really expensive party for our daughter's 5th birthday at a kid's party place. He moved out seven months ago for another woman. He also got involved with two other women. He is inviting the second woman and her kids to the party. He also had the audacity to ask me who he thought he should invite. It is bad enough that he moved down the street. I don't want to participate. I can have a cake and a party for my daughter when she next visits me. I would feel like and be a fool if I go. He can't have family and single life at the same time. He also had the nerve to ask me to call some of the kids and their parents, which I declined. What do you think?
2006-10-23 03:04:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As I read my question, I thought, WHAT A LOSER. I AM SOOOO GLAD THAT HE MOVED OUT. NOW WHAT DO I DO TO MAKE HIM MOVE OUT OF THE NEIGHBORHOOD? ANY IDEAS?
2006-10-23 03:05:57 · update #1
Your husband is a jackass, but that's not your kids' fault. Don't punish them by not helping out & attending a party. When it comes to our kids sometimes we just have to grin & bear it because their happiness is what is most important.
2006-10-23 03:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is acting like a child. Don't go to the party. Have another one for your daughter when she's down at your place. Your husband needs to learn the consequences of what he's done. You're right, he can't be single and married at the same time. And until he learns what its like not to have you around he wont realize that being single sucks. I would be nice about it and give him the phone numbers for your daughter's friends. After all you want her to have the best time she can have at her birthday party.
2006-10-23 10:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the adult. It's not fun or easy but when you decided to have a child you obligated yourself to putting your daughter's needs first. Slap a fake smile on your face (maybe it won't be so fake when you realize how lucky you are and how unlucky the new woman is), suck it up, and go for your daughter's sake. You can always throw your own party with your family and freinds later. Plus, as an added bonus, it may drive your husband crazy that you are attending and don't seemed to be fazed by the events :)
2006-10-23 10:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by redwings19 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of this is the kids fault....SO, do a party for the 5 year old by yourself with your friends and the kid's friends. I would try to move out if possible, because this is obviously upsetting you. Time to move on with your life, he is a loser and your are so much better off without him!! Good luck, honey, and happy birthday to the little girl.....!!
2006-10-23 10:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea you shouldnt go to the party honestly i think that bastard is inviting you to make you feel bad around all those women he has been with so dont go. If you want him to move out of the nighborhood you should make his life hell leave the kids over there everyday fo like an 1 hour and then come back and pick them up. Make him think if I move away she will stop coming so often if all elese fails try and move yourself. Also trust me thank god he left that man isnt worth 1 penny he will get his one day dont you worry. You will meet a wonderful guy one day and live really happy good luck to you.
2006-10-23 10:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why dont you ask your daughter what SHE wants instead of trying to out do each other this is for her you guys need to be able to put your differences aside no matter how difficult and celebrate the joy of your daughter turning five. Simply ask your daughter , " hey hun, you know the big party daddys throwing for yu well he invited me as well do you want me to be there or do yu want to have another party with the rest of yur friends and I will come to that one?"
2006-10-23 10:11:10 · answer #6 · answered by cameron b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Throw your own party for your daughter's birthday and let him throw his own - you do not need to be there and it sounds like he's a disgusting person, not worthy of you. Be glad he moved out and get on with your life.
2006-10-23 10:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a seperate party with all your friends and family connections with your daughter. Just make sure it's better than the one he throws for her! He sounds cheeky!
2006-10-23 10:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't turn up it will make u feel out of place. However, make sure you give your kid a party from you. Let you kid know she means a lot to you.
2006-10-23 10:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by teddytrin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋