Is the best revenge not to contact him any longer? Or wait until he contacts you and let him know you're very happy and that what he did, didn't seem to hurt you in the least and make it seem like your life is better than ever, even if you love him and miss him, but he doesn't care feel the same for you?
2006-10-23 02:01:29 · 19 answers · asked by wayouthere 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think a lot of gals have had a guy like that, me included - i would & did just live my life to the fullest and when he eventually calls (which he most likely will) be happy, be upbeat, talk about how busy you've been doing new things/meeting new people, etc. etc. - do not contact him under any circumstances - my guy used a lame excuse to contact me after not talking to me for about 1-1/2 months (he was used to me always giving in & contacting him) then when he heard how busy & happy i was, suddenly the calls, texts & emails were non-stop, but i did not make him the center of my life, like i had in the past - he lost a good thing in me & maybe realized it, but maybe didn't - who knows with a self-centered type of guy - he will say anything to you (i miss you, i'm sorry, i've been stupid) to try to manipulate you when he realizes you've moved on, but the less contact you have with him the better - it will become easier & you will meet new people & be much happier without the drama and confusion of this guy - remember, he wants you to contact him so he can feel in control, but then he will go AWOL again, so do not do it, cause he will keep playing this game with you as long as he knows he can.
2006-10-23 03:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you want revenge on this guy says you still haven't gotten him out of your system. Seeking revenge just makes you look desperate, pathetic and petty. If that's how you want to be thought of, then by all means...
You can believe that he's not spending this much time thinking about you. There's no guarantee that he'll regret how he treated you, because he is self-absorbed. The best thing you can do is live a full and happy life and not give this guy so much of your mental space.
Listen to yourself: "...and make it seem like your life it better than ever, even if you love him and miss him..."
Um...MAKE YOUR LIFE BETTER THAN EVER! Consider the relationship a lesson learned and move on.
2006-10-23 02:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two worngs dont make a right although it may make you feel better at the time.
I think you have the answer though eh? Don't give him the satisfaction of ever knowing he's made you feel like you do, like you say he's not bothered so why should you be.
I met a guy a few years ago and he was much the same, I called it all off and about 18mths later he made contact saying he was ready now and would take me seriously! I dont think so, I was very friendly and polite and told him it was great to hear from him. I went on to tell him how I had met an amazing man who loved me and my daughter, that we now lived together and how I never thought I'd have been so happy and then said my goodbyes. I got a text later from him saying he was sorry!!!
What goes around comes around
2006-10-23 02:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by mathison 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living well and moving on with your life is the best revenge. If he's truly self centered, he's not going to give a damn if he hurt you or not.
I was in a relationship with a man like that as well. He expected me to drop everything and be there for him. We both own our own businesses and that was ok for me to do but heaven forbid I ask him for a moment of his time! Anyway, I finally told him I wasn't going to be his beck and call girl. He didn't call me (I certainly didn't call him!) for about 6 months. He does call me periodically but I've been with someone else for awhile now and I'm perfectly happy. I don't know if he's more ticked because he "lost" or because I just don't care to stroke his ego anymore.
It's ok to love and miss him but do yourself a favor and move on. Find someone who can truly appreciate you because he obviously doesn't. Love's not easy but it shouldn't hurt.
2006-10-23 02:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh been there done that and bought the t-shirt! Hang back...know its hard and you want contact but hold back and wait for him to get in touch. Dont ever cry over somebody that wouldnt cry over you!! Wish Id off known and understood that quote when I was younger! There are so many people in this world, fish in the sea as they say....dont waste your life waiting for somebody who isnt interested in you..... why would you do that??? Ask yourself that... your feelings of hurt and missing him will fade... be strong...do NOT call him.
2006-10-23 02:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you call it revenge to quit when you need to. It is the most logical best thing to do. You don't push your luck that hard and get badly hurt for nothing. As always a relation must be symbiotic to succeed as it needs two to dance the tango,
2006-10-23 02:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by proelvispresley 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is self centered just go on with your life and be happy. It will be the best thing to do. He will not like to see that you dont think the world revolves around him.
2006-10-23 02:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... this guy I used to talk to was a very self-centered guy.
I stopped talking to him because he was leading me on... not because he was self-centered.
But months later, he called me back and I gave the phone to my new boyfriend (at the time) and friend instead.
I never said one word to him.
Oh, we had so much fun with that one.
I was laughing the entire time.
He claimed it was just a "friends" phone call.
I was like YEAH RIGHT.
I acted like I wasn't hurt at all (I wasn't anymore).
He missed me and he still wanted to talk to me.
I never gave him that chance again.
He ruined it.
HAHA.
I say....... don't contact him.
Show him you're more than that.
Show him you're not hurt.
Show him you don't need him in your life.
2006-10-23 02:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Living well is the best revenge.
2006-10-23 02:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋