My boss has just written me a bad reference as he wants me to stay, my other refs were very good so i may still get the job and he has just given me a passing shot so to speak. All i want to do is smash his face with a cricket bat as we see each other outside work quite alot socialy and i regarded him as a friend. Any ideas execpt violence as he is the type to go to the law? he is on holiday untill next monday so i have so time to plan but i am blinded by rage, help!
2006-10-23 01:59:14 · 35 answers · asked by Robakai 3 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
forgot to say the position would elevate me to a position higher than him, so that could be a reason. I not generaly bad tempered or violent, just washed over me like instinct so thanks to most who have not judged me as such on the basis of a paragraph question written on a flood of adrenilne!
2006-10-23 02:16:37 · update #1
Well, I do know how you feel. My boss(es) are like that too. Two faced people are hard to get around in this world. It will come back to get him without you having to do anything. Be the bigger person and take a higher road then him. I would also go to him and let him know how I feel. I would let him know he is no longer friend but, foe. Explain to him why. I hope you got/get the new job. I totally feel for you, I am there now.
2006-10-23 02:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by KittyKattsMeow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, calm down and get your temper in check. Now, I don't know if it's different in every state or a nationwide thing, but it's illegal for an employer to give a bad reference so you can get his *** in legal trouble. If this does not apply to you, have your potential employer call a co-worker and explain the situation in a professional matter without it sounding like you are bashing your current boss; because if you are going to bad mouth a previous employer to a potential one, it just makes you look bad. And from now on, keep work and personal relationships seperate because they can get messy and always remember that no matter how much a company may say they value you, etc. in the end they only care about themselves and their business so you need to take care of you.
2006-10-23 02:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by chocolatemartinigal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you annual evaluations from this "boss" have been good in the past, include those with your references. I learned a long time ago that , at work we have acquaintances, not friends. Find out if this person has tainted your relationship within the company which will keep you from getting a promotion. It is time to change departments, if possible, and keep looking outside the company. Good Luck.
2006-10-23 02:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you have calmed down and calmly confront him. If he truly is your friend, maybe he contact the people in person and explain you are so valuable to him that he just didn't want to let you go. Try explaining no matter what he says, you are going to leave the company anyways but that if he agrees to try and make it right, he may be able to save the friendship. Good luck
2006-10-23 02:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by willow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be the bigger person, revenge is not the answer. Just forget about what he did, if it is for you, you will get the job. He does not hold your future in his hands. So forget about him. You have to be positive, and do the right things. and good things will always come back to you,
2006-10-23 02:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would send him a dog turd in bag through the post?
report him to the 50 for selling drugs?
make a anoyomus phone call to HR and say that he's been sexualy harrsing you?
phone his wife and tell her hes having a affaird?
**** through his letter box?
put dog **** on his door handle to his car?
all the above are untraceable so you could do all of them!
and im pretty sure he cant by law give you a **** reference if you havent done anything wrong!
2006-10-23 02:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough one, trust your other referances -
if your boss is being a pest to the extent you feel discriminated against you try your union.
Business and Pleasure are tough bedfellows -
hence the saying never mix business and pleasure -
there are exeption to this - just hope yours is one of them
2006-10-23 02:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by Just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get angry, get even.
Do nothing now, work hard, make sure you get a BETTER POSITION than him. At that stage decide if it is worth doing something about his spitefull and childish attitude. If you do want to do something, you will be in a stronger position to do so.
2006-10-23 02:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem you've got is you might come across him again in the future, e.g he might move to your new firm one day and be your boss again. My old boss was a c#nt so i raided his office and have got enough dirt on him to f him in the future if i ever need to. Always better to have information in reserve for when you really need it.
2006-10-23 02:06:27 · answer #9 · answered by madnesscon 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be Grateful your boss values you as an important part of his working force, you are an asset to him.
Ask him for a pay rise too,
2006-10-23 02:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by lucy a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋