I just dont understand if my fiance loves me and he knows that I dont really want to have anal sex but If that makes him happy i will, he says that he knows that it will hurt but he will be easy why why would he want to hurt me?
2006-10-23 01:56:20 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Cause men are ruled by Mr Winky and taboo's are appealing
2006-10-23 02:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by ηιgнт ѕтαя 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even vaginal sex hurts if you don't do it properly doesn't it?
There is always a proper way to do everything and if you do it right it wont hurt. Anal rectum unlike the vagina is not built to respond to immediate arousal so its harder to stretch. So forcing it to do so in a hurry will ofcourse hurt. That doesn't mean that it will never stretch...It will and all you have to learn is how to do that before you proceed to anal sex.
First things first...You need to be very aroused. That helps to a great extend. Unlike you see in porn movies you just cant push it in as soon as you undress and ram hard. Remember the rectum is not built for it. U got to use a lotz of lube and start with some thing slim. Say one finger. Eventually the rectum will stretch so you proceed to two fingers, and finally the penis.
Anal sex was considered a taboo till recently but no longer. Even educative books and similar sources on sexuality has accepted that anal sex is not a wrong thing and can be practiced by anybody respecting certain guidelines and safety measures. Its always a welcome change from the softness of the vagina. Absence of changes in sex life make it boring doesn't it?
I think what you should be concerned about is hygiene. There are two options
1) always enter from the rear with a condom put on and never let it enter your vagina
2) If you are intending to ave unprotected anal sex then never penetrate the vagina after that.
Dont worry go for it and take the idea out of mind that it will hurt.
But you definitely have to be careful the first time and ask him to be cooperative, attendive and not harsh...After all you are just beginning...Try to do it right and ofcourse there is no reason why you will not love it. After all deep inside who dosent love to commit sins.
2006-10-23 02:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a nice feeling for some men, and I suppose its good to experiment as well. But at the same time, if your in a relationship with him, he should respect you and show it by not making you do things you really don't want to!!! If he loves you, I'm sure he won't mind going without it, there are other ways to get pleasure!! A lot of women don't want to do it - I personally cant, I have tried and I just hate the feeling, it doesn't feel right so your not the only one girl!! Just dont be forced into something you hate doing, especially not by someone who should understand your wishes!!!
2006-10-23 02:13:02 · answer #3 · answered by Bette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not have to hurt....try using lots of lube and get a *********...it opens you up. You will enjoy it more if there is not the pain involved...
Men love anal sex...and you can do with some patience and of course the toy....and lots of lube....but you also have to be open to it...your body will know and not respond favorably...he is not out to hurt you, but to turn you on to some awesome pleasure....
I was taken anally when I said NO years ago...and it hurt like hell...but then a new friend introduced me to the ********* and his patience.....now I am a big fan of anal.....it surprises most guys...
be well....and be open minded....
2006-10-23 02:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by Babsygirl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Any woman who says it hurts, has never had a good anal sex partner. Tell your boyfriend to read up on the subject first and you should prepare yourself to be totally submissive and consider masturbation or a vibrator (if you REALLY want to enjoy the experience) - I have never known a woman to not love anal after they experience it properly
2006-10-25 17:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My theory is that he had a traumatic experience as a child being forcibly given an enema or suppository - and because of that, probably without realising it, he wants to have his pyrrhic revenge by inflicting a similarly threatening anal penetration on an easy target - you!
We're living in an age when most guys are like this because most have had the relevant formative experience.
But if I were you - I wouldn't let him!
2006-10-23 21:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by distrest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that he wantes to hurt you, it's just that place is a lot tighter then the other place. If you want to try it away it doesn't hurt, do it while your on top. Just keep reminding yourself that your in control. You control how fast, how hard and how deep. And, if you relax more, it doesn't hurt that much either. If you try all of those things, then tell him no. If he loves you, he'll understand. Or (what I do) tell him if he lets you do it to him, he can do it to you. After that statement, it usually doesn't come up anymore. lol
2006-10-23 02:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by Susan F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a jack a*s and his pleasure means more to him than your pain.
Ask him if you can do anal on him with a big fat cucumber first, then he's got himself a deal!!
I've heard that some gurls like it, but I really, really don't see how or why, or how. I'm lucky, my guy thinks the whole idea is disgusting (which it is really, but hey, some guys will stick it in any hole and the smaller the better they think!)
2006-10-23 02:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get the instructional video by Nina Hartley "How to have anal sex" or something like it. It shouldn't hurt, if it does you two aren't doing it right.
2006-10-23 02:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by Coz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't think about the pain. He probably likes the novelty of it. He can then be in the group of select few who get to do it to a woman instead of a man. Plus that area is usually much tighter than the other no matter how old you are.
2006-10-23 01:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to hurt. Many women actually enjoy it, if it's done properly (relax, lube, relax)
Pick up "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" by Tristan Taormino.
2006-10-23 01:58:20 · answer #11 · answered by mr_mumbles_nyc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋