What do you think of age gap relationships?

Question

Do they work? What's the biggest age difference you've heard of?

Maybe I should explain, When i was 17 I met a guy who I fell madly in love with but he was 17 years older than me. We saw each other on a casual basis for a year until things turned more serious and we began a proper relationship. Every couple of months he used to decide that i wasn't good enough for him and he would leave me. I always took him back after a few weeks when he came crawling back. This has been going on for 5 years. We split up finally last year and i met someone else who i fell for and am now engaged to. Now my ex wants me back again and seems to have changed but i don't think that our relationship will ever survive the past 5 years and i do love my fiance. I just wondered how many age gap relationships last or how many people end up like me -confused!

Thanks Aunty J. (Taylor29) I love you too but you're not getting best answer (that would be favouritism)

Answer 1

17 years age gap is nothing.....but that relationship seemed a bit 1 sided if you don't mind me saying so. You've wasted 5 years of your life on that guy......it's time to 'move on' and be happy with the man you're now engaged to. Old habits die hard, but if it had been meant on both sides that you should have been together, then you would have been, and he wouldn't have kept on leaving you. Be happy with your new man and put the old 1 down to being a past love.....he's only playing with your feelings I think! Don't waste anymore of your time and energy on him! Good luck!The biggest age difference I've heard of is a woman being 33 years older, and that marriage worked!

Answer 2

the biggest age gap relationship i know is between my mum and dad -- nearly 30 years, they were married for 12 years, but several different personal factors meant that the marriage folded and they are now divorced with new partners.
However, don't take this as an example of an age gap relationship...a relationship is based on trust, understanding, and most importantly - love. and as with any relationship, you cannot tell how it is going to turn out, all relationships start off really well, it is after that initial "honeymoon period" that you truly begin to get to know a person, and from there you can decide and see roughly how a relationship is headed. this is This same in any relationship, whether the two people involved are the same age or there is a big gap.
as long as both parties are of a legal age, then just enjoy the relationship and make the most of it. if you are happy, then stay like that. however, just make sure you aren't being taken advantage of, and i say this if either person is older or younger, male or female. a lot of people think that it is only just the younger girl who is being taken advantage of, but that isnt always the case.
i wish you luck in your relationship
take care

Answer 3

I don't think we should allow society to dictate age restrictions in relationships. There is a 21 year age gap between my boyfriend and I (I'm 27). I have never been happier in my life. Just like with any relationship, it needs to have the essentials like trust, understanding, communication, interests, goals, etc. If those elements are in place, then nothing else matters. Love is the greatest feeling in the world, and age shouldn't stop anyone from experiencing it.

Answer 4

Anything more than say 10 years, I'm not a big fan of. Yes, it can work, but it's not for me. I'd rather have someone in the same age range as me as I feel we'd have a lot more in common. Being someone close to my mom's age just creeps me out (and when I was doing the internet personals, so many of them could not get it through their heads, even though I stated it in plain English, that I had zero interest in someone that much older).

Answer 5

I think as long as both parties are above the age of consent, and neither one is being abused or taken advantage of, then there is no problem. The biggest gap I knw personally was 30 years between my dad and his former girlfriend. The relationship didn't last, but that was because she was a horror and nothing to do with her age!

Answer 6

I used to think having someone older than you for at least 2 years is already a big gaps. But now, all this thought have gone cos guys are slow in getting mature. My husband is 7 years older and my sister-in-law and brother-in-law their age gap is even bigger 9 years. But we are all happy as well.

Answer 7

My girlfriend is 7 years older than me and I love it. When I was in my early twenties, I went out with a lady who was almost 40 for two years. I suppose that's nothing in comparison to some. Bigger age gaps will appear more with older men rather than women.

Answer 8

I dated a 36 year old when I was18, never worked out. That was probably down to me more than anything as I was so young. I don't see a problem with age gaps as long as they are not too large and you like being together.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I think they can work just as much as other relationships, You have to give them a fair chance just as in any relationship. My partner is 49 and im 26 we have a gorgeous baby whos 1. Age never comes into it for us, It may do for other people but thats their problem not ours.
I think as long as your happy and your not hurting anyone whats the problem? They can work i think, as long as the two people in the relationship dont get caught up in other peoples 'numbers' games.