i'm from india and am in love with a girl from US whom i havent personally met but we've been in touch with each other since 2 yrs. the point that baffels me is that when her family wasnt ready for the relation i put in all my efforts to be with her. now when the days of us being together are coming up so near my parents making a fuss about my age being 20 and her being 24 and that my mother says that what about the PARENTS.
i am into a very crucial situation but am not afraid to go ahead n do something worst.
Please give some advice, i think i need a psychiatrist coz all that i have gone through in these 2 years comes again and again into my mind like the Jonny Walker whiskey shots Album.
Please
God Bless You All
2006-10-23 01:36:24 · 13 answers · asked by afsruh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You know.... parents always stick their nose in their kids business, but really when you are this age, you need to do what you want, And not what they want. The more you let them make your decisions, the longer they will. You need to go out on a limb and do your own thing! You've got to start being a man, you are 20 years old. The age difference is nothing....... as long as you are happy your family should be happy for you!
2006-10-23 01:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET YOUR FACTS RIGHT FIRST!
DO YOU LOVE HER! ARE U ONLY ATTRACTED TO HER!
You say you havent personally met her! What if you do! If you love her, cant you just convince your parents that your happiness matters! But your parents are not wrong in cautionning you, the age difference is 4 years! Women after marriage tend to age faster, will you cope with this! Are you ready to accept her with the age difference! Above all it is necessary to convince your girl that like many men you wont desert her when she is not longer young, when obviously you have hundreds of choices all around you!
Please remember along with you she too will be subject to many taunts such as "craddle snatcher". In India we are still very finicky about age and things like that! But some things never change.
Make sure that when you take such a decision you feel peace in your heart! That is the best way to know if you are choosing something right! Above all once you take a decision stick by it!
Never throw away life for something like love for a person! LIFE IS BIGGER THAN LOVE! You get to live only once you may get another oppurtunity at love, but never life!
2006-10-23 02:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by indiangal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, there is no simple answer to this one as far as how your relationship will works after a 2 year with out physicaly being with each other. So you need to meet and go from there, but as far as your parents are concerned, I feel they should support you in your choice but let you know if it doesn't work out that their door is still open for you no matter what happens in your life. As far as the Johnny Walker Whiskey shots album goes, don't listed to it man they have made their money out of it and that's the only message you will find, profit. Cheers and good luck.
2006-10-23 01:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by god 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
son, you seem to be in a very very big trouble as looking at the way u've written this PLEASE DONOT DO SOMETHING WRONG
AS YOUR WORDS REALLY SHOW ME THAT YOU'RE ABOUT TO DO IT.
its really tough to get into a situation like this.
in short, i just imagine what you must be going through right now,
this is your test and the more you can handle this the more it will make you tough but
HATS OFF to you that you're still alive in this situation like this coz not many can bear it
if its true love, if you're love wasnt true then you would have carried on with life and might have found
someother girl in the span of 2 yrs.
dont worry.just lay all your love on her and live for her and not your parents coz finally she's going to bed you and not your parents
dont think much about it but all that you've gone through in these 2 years just dont tell the girl about this
she will be much confused about your intentions and the good might turn up bad.
if the girl is ready and has accepted you no matter what, then she should be ready to do as you say no matter if she's elder
to you she should respect your decisions and carry them out.
dont get scared to put your decisions over her, if she doesnt respect your decisions and turns them off then
she's not the one for you.Kind request please donot commit something wrong that will lead you to nothing.
talk to the girl about your problems and discuss it with her AND LEARN TO DOMINATE after all you're A MAN
you have the full rights to DOMINATE and tell her what you like and what not.
all the best
2006-10-23 02:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by cool_pal_puppy_sex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always believed in following the heart. It can guide you many places the mind can't. It guides you where the mind couldn't understand.
Really, I wouldn't worry too much about age. It's only 4 years...Not 40!!! And I wouldn't worry to much about her parents, they are just looking out for her best interests. They are probably worried about her meeting a man on the internet because of some many horror stories about that kind of thing. But you have been talking to her for 2 years. Does she feel the same for you??? I don't think you should let love slip away.....
2006-10-23 01:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Cblack22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no problem in the age difference. None whatsoever. Your mom is not going to marry into her parents or viceversa, so whatever she thinks or imagines of the other parents is HER PROBLEM, not yours. It is only you and the girl that matters. You have a right to be happy no matter what your parents may think. Go for it and stop worrying. At least you have a girl that corresponds your love to her. Imagine loving someone that doesn't really love you!!!!!!!!!! After you are with her, eventually your and her parents will get over whatever it is that they feel....
2006-10-23 01:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow what your heart dictates and your parents will understand. It is a natural response for parents to worry because they care about your welfare and happiness. You are embarking on a different journey from the rest of your peers, so it is understandable that they will worry. Talking to them and explaining the details will at least ease their apprehension. Explain to them that there is nothing to worry about. or better yet,request that your girlfriend can talk to them and assure them too that everything will be fine. For your love affair to be complete and happy, you need the blessings of your parents.
2006-10-23 02:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents' decisions do play an important role in our life. If you truly love that girl and you think that she is the one with whom you want to spend your life then go for it. just tell your parents why you feel that you want to marry only this girl, why you can be happy with this girl only despite your age difference. I am sure they are going to understand you since they love you.
2006-10-23 03:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by rocking gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy, just get married - Age, height, colour, race--- what ever it is doesnt matter once you two are together! Parents will be parents - even you will one sometime later - so just be what you want to be and do what you think is right! Best of luck!
2006-10-23 01:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by jk s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hai i think u are first love ur parents and then that girl from us
u think that the girl from us make ur family happy for ever if so then marrige her otherwise let him go sorry i think u not do this but pls once asked from ur heart bye take care
2006-10-23 02:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋