Married men..?

Question

Why do you think they cheat on their wifes? Why do they have too?
Is it because they are missing something in there marriages? And why do they stay in the marriage if there is something missing that they are getting elsewhere?

Just a few thoughts i;ve been having!

Sorry, i was being biased.. but i am a women, so thats why i asked this question!

Answer 1

Because they can just as a woman can and do.
Being in a relationship for along time means that couples become stagnant the honey moon period does not last for ever and as humans once the chase is over we become complacent.

Along comes the opportunity for them to be fussed over to feel like they might have done in the beginning of the relationship with the wife, the new person does not want anything from them,fills the sexual side and at the end of the night closes the door and says goodbye until the next time.

The other woman will properly dress to make him feel good where as people in relationship get comfortable and stop trying,

As for staying in the marriage they are not stupid a home and family and the the other woman they have it made married men never leave their wives and visa verse unless things really are at the point of no return.

Some affairs keep a marriage alive, after all the french men have the wife and the other woman to them it is natural, as humans we are easily lead maybe like the old story of temptation in the garden of Eden and that was with an apple.

Answer 2

I can give a realistic answer - being married for 20 years and 'cheating' (with the same woman) for 4. I have changed in 20 years, and what I want from my partner has changed. BUT I have children, don't fight (too much) with my wife and so the time is not right for me to leave. I feel guilty and worthless about all the deceipt, but know that the 'other' woman is the person I ultimately wish (and need) to grow old with. PS - none of this is an attempt at justification, just at explanation - and this is the first (and only) time I've ever cheated since I started dating. Sometimes life isn't as simple as you'd like.

Answer 3

I think the whole cheating thing really stinks. Men or women, and women do it just as much. Why? I think they usually have a inferiority complex and they need to know they can get it elsewhere. I mean, most people are not virgins when they get married anymore so they should know what sex is like with their partner. That doesn't change in marriage, so if you want to constantly have some strange, then don't get married.

Answer 4

My view is that it has nothing to do with something missing in their marriage, or that they are immature or that they are just men. I think it's simply an opportunist thing. If the opportunity to shag another woman presents itself, and the risk of being caught is low, I think that a very large proportion of men will do the dirty.

I also agree with the stats - that it is more common for a woman to cheat on her husband than it is for a man to cheat on his wife. Again, it's the opportunity factor. When I go out with either one or a small group of mates (male), we do not go out to pull women, we just have a few beers, a great laugh and at some time during the night, we will probably talk about women. We very rarely actually have any interaction with a real woman (except a barmaid/waitress). When my wife goes out with one or two of her female friends (i.e. not a large group), she tells me that men continually hit on them. Therefore, if she was inclined to cheat, it would be far easier for her. I also reckon (I'll post the question in a minute) that, if that was my intention, the chance of me pulling on a night out would be 2 in 10, while I reckon it would be 9 in 10 for my wife.

Answer 5

A man or women may cheat for a number of reasons, they do not know what marriage means. They do not know that they must be absolutely faithful and loyal to each other spiritually as well as physically. They don't care to keep the home fires burning for selfish reasons and instead of taking care and working on their marriage together they look elsewhere to be happy and fulfilled.

Answer 6

Maybe, as me and several of my married friends have found out over the years that to a lot of women a wedding ring on a mans finger is a challenge and it can be an uncomplicated no strings attached way of getting some action not using this as an excuse but it happens and men do as you probably realise do tend to think with beer goggles and penises !So yes we do cheat on our wifes but I have had 2 wifes cheat on me 1 with another man and one with cocaine don,t know which was worse

Answer 7

I think that married men who cheat, were cheating before they got married. Some of them are missing things in their marriage, while others are just so piggish, they want the best of both worlds. And there seem to be plenty of women out there who don't know how to tell a married man that they won't sleep with them because they are married.

Answer 8

They don't leave the unloving wife because the scales are weighted in the woman's favor in the courts; often he won't even get to see the kids. He doesn't want to lose so much financially, and it's easier to make up some lies and cheat and sleep around than with dealing with her mouth and a breakup.

Men cheat because they want more sex. One man said he couldn't afford the jewelry bill for b/j anymore, so now he goes and sees men friends.

Answer 9

As a married man I'd never cheat. There is always something missing from a relationship, but then that is what makes life interesting. I openly flirt, I love women, I talk with them and my wife see's this. Love and trust is what keeps us going. I really doubt that I'd get anything better from some one else.

Answer 10

People cheat on other people (regardless of whether they are married or not) because of something they are not getting in the relationship. This could be a physical sensation (achieved through fulfulling a desire of some sort), or an emotion one. Eitherway, if needs aren't satisfied, all humans will seek a way to get them satisfied. Religion & human ethics teach us how to control these, but the bottom line is, these are never enough to fulful basic human instincts. That's why we feel guilty when we do cheat. Understanding why we do it actually helps you not to do it!!!