Call me crazy but my husband wants my ex boyfriend to move in?
He is the father of my first daughter(my ex) and has new roomates who abuse drugs, so I have banned my daughter from going over there obviously. My husband suggested that he move in with us, so he could be with his daughter, and we would have more money for savings. He says he just wants to help everyone out. I feel he doesn't love me if he is at all o.k with me living with my ex, even though we are strictly platonic. What do you think? Thanks!
2006-10-23 01:32:43 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To me I don't think he loves me, and is worthy of divorce.
2006-10-23 01:42:46 · update #1
Well, I would call your husband crazy until I read your full question.
Your husband loves you and your daughter and wants her to be happy. You are very lucky. He is also intelligent and money smart.
He knows you love him and would not cheat on him. That means he trusts you and is secure in your relationship, how is that a bad thing? Do you want him to think you would sleep with your ex?
Your husband obviously knows why you broke up with your ex and believes that you are over that. You should be very proud to be married to such a level headed guy, not upset because he's not jealous!
2006-10-23 01:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if your boyfriend just is not thinking this through enough. Sounds like he trusts you an awful lot. And sounds like he is strained financially. Are you sure he was serious?
My mother, father and now step-mother did this when I was a toddler (34 yrs old now) and for many years I'd still hear stories of jealousy, etc. In the long run it probably would not be very healthy for your daughter. You could probably just have him (ur ex) come to your house for the visitation. Plus, I'd talk to your now boyfriend about other ways to suppliment the needed income.
Best wishes!
2006-10-23 01:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Cellen 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The possible reasons:
1. Your husband is g@y.
2. Your husband is crazy.
3. Your husband wants a drug look-up.
4. He completely trusts you, and is genuine about your ex being able to see his daughter.
Lets hope for the 4th !
2006-10-23 01:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by Falling to pieces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband must really really trust you to allow a strange arangement like this. If you're not comfortable with the setup, better tell him. It's impressive that you have remained friends with your ex, atleast the ties between him and his daughter won't suffer. However, there's such a thing as too close for comfort...
2006-10-23 01:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by zac8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may think its for a good course but i can smell trouble sometime in the long run.. ever heard of the word insecurity..?? He may trust you now but he wont be comfortable with him around u soon as he moves in. Jelousy is a natural thing.. tell him to even stop thinking about it. if you realy need the money, find someone else to rent from u. Good luck!!
2006-10-23 01:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by nqosh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should divorce him. Maybe he's just thinking of your daughter when he suggested that. But if your ex does move in with you, that will lead to disaster. Tell you husband thanks for thinking of your daughter needing her father as well as you, but it's not the best idea he's ever come up with.
2006-10-23 01:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your husband loves you and your kids very much enough to let your ex move in so he can see his daughter. Hang on to your hubby you have a good one.
2006-10-23 01:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You think your husband does not love you because of this?? Hunny it is opposite. I think he loves you and trusts you because of this. Most people do not even want to hear the name of the spouse's ex. Yes it would be better for savings and your daughter would love it. But please do not allow this. It will cause strain on your marriage.
2006-10-23 01:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is really messed up. What man is going to want an ex to move in with him and his woman!!?? Your husband has mental issues. Maybe you and your ex should just get a place and to hell with your freaky husband.
2006-10-23 01:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was arrested for intent to distribute extacy. He was sentenced 16 mos for house arrest. He is in Las Vegas now for the murder charges.
2006-10-24 09:01:19 · answer #10 · answered by bigmarcus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋