how do I deal with this
2006-10-23 00:41:51 · 11 answers · asked by emsky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The problem with this question is that I don't see anywhere you talked about leaving the relationship, or seeking some type of counseling.
In order to deal with you 8 year old, you first have to deal with the situation. As long as you stay in that situation with your 8 year old around, you will not be able to help her. No matter how much you tell her about it, or try to explain, the situation won't change. As a matter of fact, you are just preparing her to accept that type of treatment when she gets older.
My suggestion, do what you have to do LEGALLY, to change or get out of that situation. I can suggest a couple of things, but the resources are out there to help you. Once that is done, you may want to get counseling for both you and your daughter.
2006-10-23 01:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by Rugah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sticking around for this person to do it again---you should have your head examined----Children learn from the actions the parents or the parents partners! Do you want to start a cycle in your 8 yr old daughter than is non-reversible? Don't wait but run and get mental health help to figure out why you are choosing to stay in this abusive relationship.
2006-10-23 07:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off no one has the right to physically or mentally hurt anyone. I would suggest you tell the other person to leave. If they don't call the police and make them leave.
One of two things can happen because your in an abusive relations. Your daughter can be taken away or she's going to act at what she sees.
2006-10-23 07:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by dee luna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave - and Soon. She is impressionable. If you do nothing it's like telling her it is acceptable to be abused,- Which may affect her later on in life. She could also become violent as she gets older or worse be in a relationship like you are and have history repeat itself all over again.
I've seen it first hand with my folks who are still together but I have more disrespect for her as she never left him...
2006-10-23 07:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by mark leshark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teach her that hitting and abusing someone is not right, and teach her that when someone does that it is not right, so when sooner abuses another that they leave that person and leaves them alone....this is good advise for you and your daughter....once a abuser always a abuser...they can tell you that they will never do it again, and they are lying to you...once they find out you will forgive them and stay , sooner or later they will do it again and it will get worse, and can lead to the safety of your life and your daughters....pack your things and your daughters things and leave and do not look back....if they really loved you they would not have abused you in the first place....what does love have to do with it............
2006-10-23 08:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by churchonthewayseniors 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want your daughter to see repeats iof such behaviour? SERIOUSLY consider if you want to be in a relationship where physical abuse occurs. Discuss it with a professional. PHYSICAL ABUSE is never ok, even how minor. (Explain that to your daughter, and show her you MEAN what you say by following up on this assault.)
2006-10-23 07:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your dumb ass is with someone that hurts you and you stay with them then it's your problem but with a kid there and they see things like that then you both need to be shot. the kid did not ask for any of that
2006-10-23 07:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by chris h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I watched my mom get beat for many years & if you love that little girl please get out of that before you damage her cause it will. I can't begin to tell you how it affected me.
2006-10-23 07:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get OUT of that relationship if u haven't already!
2006-10-23 07:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by Judy L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave before he hurts you again or worse your daughter!!!
2006-10-23 07:48:55 · answer #10 · answered by J D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋