If have an unplanned pregnancy with a short term relationship, and the father was there the entire time emotoinally and made sure you had everything for not only you and your other child that wasn't his and wanted to be with you, would you treat him like crap to try to get him to leave you since you wasn't really into him like that, or would you keep him around to try and make it work, or even just because it was financially better for you and the kids, Please HONEST answers
2006-10-23 00:17:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If I didn't love him - not just lust, but a true attachment - then I would not necessarily want to be with him. I would certainly respect his attachment to his child, but that doesn't mean that I could manufacture feelings for him that didn't exist.
2006-10-23 00:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Initially I would want to keep him around to help support me and my child. But the more I think about it, I lean more toward just telling him that you are sorry and it isnt working out. I wouldnt want to raise a child in an environment where there is no honest love between its parents. I feel a child would eventually wise up and maybe resent its mother or the man for staying in a relationship unhappy just because of the child.
2006-10-23 00:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by babyj248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
giving emotional support in the pregnancy time for am men is not easy. most men don't understand and cannot do it . but if this man has been with u it means he cares for u and the baby both . Even if u don't like him still u can respect. actually from my own experience dUring my 1st pregnancy my hubby could not help me much so ; i was in bit shock and questioning myself. but in my second pregnancy he was there for everything , so my respect for him is really at its peak
then how can treat him like a crap . if u had a temporary relationship but the baby is something permanent.
u should try ur best to make relation ship work for whatever reason ;economic, emotional kids
try ur best and then see what ur future unveils for you
2006-10-23 00:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by may_minu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't be bringing kids into this earth if you haven't the slightest idea of right and wrong. Would you want a guy to lie to you just because he benefitted from it financially or you were great in bed or you took care of his kids? I dont think so. You really should just show him this topic if you haven't the backbone to tell the guy the truth. Just realize this though, he might be forgiving in time but dont think when you get your head out of your *** or your head screwed on straight he is just gonna be waiting around for you! I am sure there will be a girl that will come around and see him for what a really great guy he is and you will be kicking yourself everyday the rest of your life! My ex's did to me what your doing to him now, my fiance` saw me for me. She doesn't need anything else other than myself to be happy, everything else are just bonuses for her honesty! Honesty is always the best policy! You asked for HONEST answers only but can't seem to give the significant guy in your life the same! Shame on you!
2006-10-23 00:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by jls1znv9999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant just keep him around for conveniece however you cant be horrible to him to get rid of him either! Try talking to him and telling him you didnt intend for a relationship, because even if you will be better off financially, you wont be happy and neither will he
2006-10-23 00:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by jacks my boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a moms happiness is important to childrens well being. if they see you as unhappy with your life they will react to that. also you should be fair to him. spliting might hurt him at first but he will survive and find a female that really loves him. it's better for all people in this situation to be honest. be gental but forward with you feelings. it's not healthy for the kids to get attached to mommy and daddy as a couple if it's only going to be misserable and end in anger. be carefule and really think about everyones feelings.
2006-10-23 00:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by aimie a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't lead him on but don't treat him like crap explain to him that he has been a great help but you just don't feel the same for him .. it might take a while from him to understand but he seems like a good guy why would you ever treat him like crap be an adult and discuss the situation
2006-10-23 00:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be honest with him. Please try not to be mean to him...he's only trying to help you. Tell him how you feel, and see how he reacts....he may stick around for your friendship. He does sound like a great guy, but you have to make sure that you are happy too.
2006-10-23 01:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my oldest daughters mom did and even was with another man while we were together (while i was at work in order to feed me, her ,her previous two kids and her sister.)
2006-10-23 00:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by grim_reaper_69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't use men. what kind of example is that for your children?
2006-10-23 00:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋