I have had my problems solved here regarding my love affair with a friend. Trying to make it work with my husband has been very stressful but yet i cannot bear to live him because of my children. I don't want to lose them to my husband but if i were to ask for a divorce and fight for custody, i know i am not ableto give them the lifestyle they should have and the best of education. My husband can. On top of that, I am missing my lover so much.What do i do? Shouldi stay or go? My husband doesn't seem to care anymore.
2006-10-23 00:07:22 · 7 answers · asked by angelheart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband verbally abuses me and he has never apologises for it.Instead, he says i am the one who brought out this worse side of him. Is it true? Can someone bring the worse out of someone else?
2006-10-23 02:59:31 · update #1
you might not be able to give your children material things like your husband can....the love and caring, the attention and day to day care of your children , that is what they need the most....and your husband will have to pay child support for the children.....get a lawyer and get the child support and alimony you and the children deserve.......if you are unhappy with your husband , see a lawyer first, talk it out with him/her and then develop your plan....[tell lawyer about all and any things they should know ...ie...........your friend, be careful do not let husband see you with him or you will have more problems.....might be a good idea to stay apart until court is over and everyone andeverything is settled....]
2006-10-23 00:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by churchonthewayseniors 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love, sound like your husband is aware of the circumstances and is either doing the same thing or doesn't want a divorce cause you'll take half.
If your lover has a partner, you should be concerned he will do the same thing to you or worse is thinking that you will do the same thing to him!!!
Their was obviously a reason that you and hubby married fell in love and had children - try re kindling just one more time, take a break away for the day or the weekend, and have a silent time - just passing notes to each other.
If you think its only going to get worse - get out of their the children dint need to see you fighting all the time, and grow up with it.
Its now or never!@!!!
@@@JD
2006-10-23 07:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by J D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetheart...you really backed yourself into a corner, didn't you. How old are you, how long have you been married? Your husband seems to know the score and is ?.....waiting? for the other shoe to drop. Have a heart to heart with him and see if there's something you can do to straighten out this mess you've created. If not....talk about some sort of settlement that will be the best for the kids, you and he second. Maybe he's got an answer and is waiting for you to say something. In the meantime put the lover on the back burner, he doesn't count right now, he should be ashamed of himself but, will take advantage of the freebees.
2006-10-23 07:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They deserve not to have to live in a house where the two people they love most are unhappy. The things they deserve the most are love and an example of what love and happiness can really be. Your husband will still be responsible for their care (child support) and education. They will appreciate not having to witness the two of you tear each other apart more than the financial benefits. My own mother stayed with my father much longer than was healthy for any of us so when I faced the same dilemma I chose to leave for my own and my children's emotional and mental health.
Good Luck
2006-10-23 07:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by peteandraeann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children will definitely get the vibes that something is going on. What cause the fall out from you and your husband in the first place. If you can't fix it you should probably leave. If you take the kids he will have to pay child support. Hope you figure things out
2006-10-23 07:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by athomemommy_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't understand why your husband doesn't care. Let's face it you are only having a bit on the side and only want him to pay for the support of your kids. Doesn't he know when he's on a winner?
2006-10-23 07:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ted T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, I think you're into yourself more than your children if you're missing this so called lover.
What does this lover think of your children? Is he willing to be a father figure or someone they can look up to? If not, then is he really worth it?
2006-10-23 07:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by kitt_kattkitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋