Ive been with my girlfriend for four years, I love her I do, but we've drifted apart to the point were I dont know were our future is going, Ive tried to mend things and get her to address our problems but she seems happy to go on the way things are. A few months ago I meet a girl and Ive fallen for her, we have so much in common and I know we would make each other happy, but Im still so confused, I want to be happy again with my girl but I dont know if we ever really will be again....and if I let this girl go I could be losing so much.... What should I do??
Only real answers please
2006-10-23 00:04:33 · 16 answers · asked by i_alone_me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People do drift apart so dont feel bad about having feelings for someone else..you have already tried speaking to your girlfriend about your relationship and she is just happy plodding along but you are not..finish with her and go out with this new girl and if that doesnt work out then no doubt you will find someone else...Have fun.
2006-10-23 00:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girfriend is not willing to address the problems of your relationship, the only option would be to finish it. I say finish it because if she really cared, she would be willing to work on the relationship. She is with you it seems as you are her 'safe bet'. If you tell her that you both need a break or you end the relationship, she might actually start to address the issues you have mentioned before.
If this other girl you have met makes you happy and you are actually considering taking it further shows that you are NOT really happy with your girlfiend. Maybe it'll be best to end it before you both get hurt. At the end of the day only you know the answer!
Good luck
2006-10-23 00:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer where you and your girlfriend are heading. If you don't know and it sounds like she knows where you stand then I think you need to Do what makes you happy. Go with the other girl and have fun doing it. If you two are that compatible then you can't be wrong.
2006-10-23 00:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your girlfriend should talk about this. And be honest about what you really feel.Evaluate yourselves and see where both of you are heading.Ask her opinion also whether she would still want to continue your relationship or not You dont want to be greedy would u? Maybe she feels the same about whats happening. Be open and what ever your decisions in the end will be, you just have to accept it.
Please choose one. Give one of them the chnace to be happy as well. Dont be selfish.
2006-10-23 00:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by KD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no1 can really answer that question for you its up 2 if u want 2 end things with ur gf or stay with her u cant stand in the middle because thats just mean u have 2 make a decison and its all up 2 u
2006-10-23 00:08:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your girlfriend wont address the problem give her the shove, that will make her see how bad things have got, shell beg you to come back and shell promise to change... things will be better when you get back with her, dont leave her for someone else, that was done to me and it tore me apart, its the worst possible thing you could do to someone
2006-10-23 00:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have a talk with ur girlfriend before u commit to this new girl inorder to avoid regret or guilt pangs later on...let her know how u feel about the gap that has come into ur relationship and the way u feel about this new girl....
2006-10-23 00:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by archie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fisrt you must know what do want with your life, like what makes you happy. remember day are not the same 4 years probaley you know her to much.be your self, dont forget to pray.
2006-10-23 00:17:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the easiest way i find to do this is to take a two week 'holiday' (anywhere as long as you don't contact either of them) without either of them. It will soon become apparent which one you want because you will miss one of them more than the other.
2006-10-24 09:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by Atlanta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the new one a go, it sounds like ur old relationship is over!!
2006-10-23 00:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by HIMSELF 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋