We dated for two years and talked about marriage. We saw each other every day and I thought we were best friends. He told me every day that I was the only girl for him, that he loved me all of his heart, and that he would never leave me. He dumped me over the phone while he was on vacation in a 20 min. conversation. He said he would call me when he got back home. It has been 2 months and I know he is home, he still has not contacted me. I am smart, very attractive, nice, and loving. I treated him and his family very well. I did everything I could to make him happy. I just do not understand. How can someone do that to another person? I am not perfect but I do know that I did not deserve to be treated this way. Should I try to contact him to get closure? Am I crazy to still be depressed about this guy? I try to let it go and forget, but I can't. There are so many questions in my head about what went wrong. I feel so rejected and confused. Help me!
2006-10-22 23:58:30 · 8 answers · asked by tanglo02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Welcome to a group of many. Likely nothing is wrong with you. To me, the security of love is enveloping. The comfort it gives almost cannot be described. So, we go on about our day, maybe without even thinking about how great it is, and how happy that one aspect of our lives makes us. Problem is, the other person may not be there, and we, following the old cliche, 'love is blind' don't even see it. Obviously he isn't you, in terms of feeling the same. I am so sorry for you, because I have been there, and I know how depressed I have felt concerning love. But, there is some good news, I promise... The good news is that obviously he is not the one for you, and that if you and he had stayed together, very likely it would have resulted in a longer enduring pain than you have now. This will go away, and you will find the man for you. You sound like you have so much going for you, that I do believe you will find Mr. Right. Let Mr. Wrong go on his way. let the closure be the fact that he moved on. The decision has been made, although it may not be what you wanted, it is made nonetheless. Contacting him will likely only serve a couple of interests.. first, you will likely get hurt again, which will continue this spiral, and he will just be irritated, because he is trying to move on for whatever reason. Let it be. I know it isn't easy, but you do sound great, and the right person is out there. Be glad that you didn't get married, and found this out afterwards. Your not crazy to be depressed. Its common, trust me, I live it. Love can be a blessing, and the best thing forever, or so difficult that it consumes us. Move forward, don't let it consume you. You have strength, recognize that, and do your best to not be burdened by this any more than you have to.
2006-10-23 00:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by maybcyaround 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any relation ship need to have trust if its infatuation it can be last for two year also. if the conversation happened with your boy and you feel that u are wrong some where then definately call him and try to clear your point of view.
or might be he got some one else where he find her more attractive, smart and beautiful. thats why he just wanted to go away from you even though u call him and clear if thats the situation then dont give him that feeling that he get rid of you easely.
as you feel so important about you then he also feel in the same way if he not then you must realise and put your self into work or start meeting new people make friends and try to make your self happy.
but u speak to him and describe whatever happened to your closest friend who understand you because by the time you will not come up with this thing you can not put your mind any where.
2006-10-23 00:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by VKS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself - it's his problem! Obviously he's incapable of appreciating you. Sounds like he is immature and cowardly too.
Part of me would not want to let him know you are thinking of him at all. But if you really need closure, maybe you should contact him. I think you might open yourself up to more hurt - what would the conversation accomplish? - but you might want to ask him what his thought processes were. DO NOT make a case for yourself or ask to get back together!
Please realize he's not the right person - you will find better. It will take time, but someday you will realize that you never want him back, even if he asked.
Good luck.
2006-10-23 00:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no face to talk to you. You are not welcome in his eyes. What you want more to know. Answers, why he drop you, left and forgot about you so easily.
I'm sorry to not help, but I want to save you of this stupid, and to nowhere confrontation. I was in similar situation, I just gave up any question, accepted the reality - everything knock me down.
I don't have even desire to find somebody - I'm just disappointed and scare. Who knows why? But better that way - I'm on vacation.
2006-10-23 00:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a boyfriend, so that you shouldnt move hang around along with your ex, its now not dishonest, however its improper thats for certain, dont provide him the risk to kiss you, simply dont move, inform your bf what he stated.
2016-09-01 01:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by liebermann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He sounds like he only cares about him and his feelings. You don't need anyone like that. So stay smart and move on. Don't call him.
2006-10-23 00:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by JM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey that's normal. you'll find a way to get over it. for some people it's a month, others more tahn a year. but you'll live.
2006-10-23 00:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we don't know why someone broke up with us...
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if all that they have is lies
or
nothing
then
it probably wasn't your fault..
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so,,,
are these characteristics that you want in a bf?
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2006-10-23 00:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋