i neeed help pleeeeeeeeeeze?

Question

i am 23 years old and just giving birth to twins boy and girl the problem is they are allways crying even after i have fed them changed and taking them out for a walk there only 2 weeks old and need some advice please and no the father is not around.

Answer 1

you need someone to assist you.

hire someone who can look for the other when you are busy with the other baby. if your mom can visit you, it will be a great help.

though it is tiring, seeing your kids smiling can ease all that anxiety.

dont be sad coz they will feel that. it also affects the supply of your milk.

have a sleep. sleep too when they are.

have enogh water. this will relax you and release toxins.

happy parenting!

Answer 2

Have they seen the doctor recently for a checkup. Might want to see if they are gassy, possible thrush (you will more than likely see a whitish filmy substance on their tounges), are they having normal diapers like wet and dirty? Also when they sleep do they sleep seperate or together? I heard recently that a set of premature twins when seperated would cry non stop but when placed side by side they would become calm and almost always fall asleep. Congratulations on the twins, you need to get some help though even if it's so you can get a good healthy nights sleep. Sorry to hear about the father situation. I am sure you will get through this. Just speak to the doctor about their crankiness he or she might be able to make some helpful suggestions!

Answer 3

Have you tried to see if the babies are colicky. Take you babies to the hospital to see if they are so they can give you some medicine for that. It is nothing serious but sometimes the gas just gets trapped in there stomachs and they need alittle extra help to release it. I know my lil boy had the same thing. If that isnt it then just let then cry you have done everything that you could possibly do... feed them, bath them, change there pamper, and show them some loving time, and they are still crying then let them cry. Some babies are stubborn and want to be held all the time and if you dont brake them from that then you will be struggling for a long t6ime with those two.

Answer 4

First, congratulations for your twins.

I know how hard this must be for you - it's going to be rough for awhile so I hope you have family and friends to lean on for help. Dont feel bad for asking others to help out, all mothers either want to or do and here you are with twins!

Unfortunately, newborns can do a lot of 'unexplained' crying. You've covered all the main points (fed, changed, not too warm/cold) but they still would like something else. Perhaps they'd like a pacifier to help them get to sleep. Perhaps they have a tummy ache/gas. Perhaps they want to be snuggled really tight, like how it was in your tummy (swaddling is supposedly great, although I never actually tried it with my girl). You'll begin to be able to read their signs better very quickly, they'll adjust a bit more to the 'real world', and they will stop crying as much in just a few short weeks. You'll see!

My mom said it was great with my twin brother and I once we were older as we would entertain one another. She didnt have to be the one to constantly play with us and we had a constant companion. It'll take some long mths before they get there, but do the best you can and build a support team around you. I think there are mommy groups just for twins even, depending on your area.

Oh yes, my best investment was a swing for my baby. You can find one (or maybe two!) second-hand so it wont be as expensive... I thought it was completely worth it and I bought one new. It played music, with lights, and swung my baby to happiness on many an occasion. What a great invention!

Good luck.

Answer 5

my son is 8 months old and only his first month did he not cry at night besides hunger. He's had colic, gas, acid reflux, ear infection, cold, intense teething, vomiting, and some things we haven't figured out yet. sometimes more then one at a time. It's possible they are colicky, but colic usually has a cause in my opinion, you just have to find it. Things that worked for my baby were white noise(THE best!) different pitches work for different babies. But untill you find a cd or something, try the shower, fan, vacuum, hair dryer, etc. also maybe on the dryer, (be sure they are secure and don't vibrate off!) the noise NEEDS to be LOUD, so they can hear it over their crying and notice it.
Try a side to side swing if you can afford one, look in thrift and consignment stores.
With gas and acid reflux BIG movement helped. (like deep squats, or hopping up and down, or stairs) with a LOUD shh shh shh in his ear.
you could try Gripe Water, it works for some colicky things, and/or gas drops.
I'd try to find or hire help since you have two.
I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 6

It can be stressful. That's what most babies do. They cry. I think you should get some support from your family and friends to help you out. I have done Shhhing to my son's ear and it calmed him down. I have swalddled him and it worked. I have played "white noise" in the radio and it worked too. Now all these I had to try for a few times and they worked most of the times especially when my baby was young (a few weeks old to 3 mos). Try that. I got all that from happiest baby on the block. Here is his website. http://www.thehappiestbaby.com/ Good luck. It's tough in the beginning, but it will get better. Get as much help as possible.

Answer 7

Congrats - happy Mummyhood. Have a chat with your Health Visitor - that's what they are their for. The thing with newborns is that they just want a cuddle to get used to being 'out'. Have you checked they've not got wind (give their back a good rub till you get something from them - you'll know this anyway). Talk to the Health Visitor though. Good luck and I wish you all the luck....its great being a Mummy.

Answer 8

you need to remember one thing: relax as much as possible. Your babies are crying well because they can. When you all get used to the idea of your family unit (which will take a bit of time) you will all be fine. Also what may sound like endless crying to you is prob not that bad to others. good luck...

Answer 9

with any luck, with twins, you have family or someone around...twins are difficult...but not impossible...just make sure to keep your stress level at a minimum, because they will pick up on it....if you need to, put them in the bedroom and close the door for a few minutes, and take a few deep breaths...it will not go on forever, trust me, i have been there....it seems endless, but they will grow up so fast, you will wonder where the time has gone...just keep your cool, take breaks, and always tell them and show them how much you love them....congratulations!!

Answer 10

ok i have been there and done that, would do it all over again if i could. yes i said that i wold do it all over again if i could. i walked in the same shoes your walking in too. it was very tough, especialy being a first time mother myself. i never knew that a baby could cry as much as they do, but it happens. my heart goes out to you. about the crying issue...it seems thats all mine did. i played, cuddled and took them for walks, i even read books to them. nothing i seemed to do would help. thats when i called my best friend, she came over and took them out. sometimes i would put them in the car and drive til they fell asleep. that worked too. i did call the doctor and he said that they could have colic. if you feel that your going to loose your mind, please call someone for help. i did and was sooo glad that i did too. dont get discouraged because you cant figure out whats wrong with them. it takes time its long and hard and tedious, i know. try everything you can to think of what to do when you run out of options, call someone. trust me it never hurts to call for help and dont feel like a failure if you do. its hard on all of you, you and the babies. i hope this helps.good luck and always show them that you love them.