The first year i was with my boyfriend he was amazing, brought me out of myself, took care of me, we had a connection i'd never known before. but now! i step out of it and i think he's damaging me. because of what we built up the first year i stay, because i do love him. but its different, he blames me for everything. he played a sad song that upset me, and then said that i was messing him around by not telling him why i was upset right away, that i always do it, that i never change. at this point, nothing i say will stop him being pissed. he was pissed for two days. and he'd upset me!!! he says it's my fault we cant share anymore because when he asks me why i'm upset i dont answer, so we cant. he used to say that i was a wonderful, sexy, loving, unselfish woman, now he says he can 'see i'm a kind person underneath it all' but i have alot to give the right man. i'm quite giving, but he says i take all the time.
2006-10-22 23:22:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well of corse they can come one your only seeing one side that you wanna see
2006-10-22 23:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee that sounds familiar, I have been there and it took alot for me to see that he was damaging me. My man (ex, thank god) had me convinced that I was a horrible girlfriend because I would call him more than once if I couldn't get ahold of him. You will never make this man happy, but there isn't anything wrong with you, The best way to get out of this situatuion is to tell the man he;'s a great guy (you probably hear that alot from hiim about himslef) and your just not good enough for him than run far far away, because you are only in stage one with this man it doesn't get better
2006-10-23 08:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As i say many times to others good comunication is necessary for a relationship to work .By refusing to tell him the truth you just make things worse try the truth it may hurt at first but it is best.
2006-10-23 06:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he has become the taker --- ladies tend to give of themselves and guys tend to take and take
if he is not prepared to look at himself and see the change there is not a lot to be done --- you need to tell him and if he is not responsive he is showing he is not as caring as he was
blaming you is not the way to repair a relationship
2006-10-23 06:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him. my ex was like taht and now i've moved back to my home town im a completly different person that i was wen i left in the 1st place. im so much quieter and im not speaking my mind as i would. people that knew me before are so surprised by the change. its like im a new person, and not in a good way. get rid of his before your friends start not regonising you as their friend
2006-10-23 06:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by evilbunnyhahaha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people are one way when you're dating and change later. Dump him. He blames you now and will be hitting you later. Dump him now.
Good luck.
2006-10-23 06:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes!
like learning to ride a bicycle
some things
must
be done for yourself...
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hmmm.
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2006-10-23 06:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋