2006-10-22 23:08:47 · 18 answers · asked by Victoria S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try talking to him...
2006-10-22 23:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, an apology would certainly be the best place to start. After that I'd say you need some third party counseling, cause a man doesn't leave because you said something ugly. And what were you thinking with the hitting? He can't hit you, the law will have his hide- so you have no right to slap either. In many ways, you are lucky he did leave instead of slapping you back. The two of you are supposed to be adults, and this sounds like a child's argument. Now it's time to swallow hard and start acting like a couple of mature adults. Cool off, sort it out, and settle it like sane, mature human beings, who are supposed to be in love. Until the two of you can sort things out, starting with an apology, there is no help to give. After you have your apologies, then get some marriage counseling to help the two of you learn some more mature behaviors.
2006-10-23 06:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by The mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he left you over a misunderstanding then there are probably other thing going on the your not seeing. No body walks you on a marriage over a misunderstanding. Sounds to me like things got out of control rather quickly when the words started flying and you losing your temper enough to slap him. Would the story be different if he slapped you? The two of you need to sit down and iron things out and make an understanding of the misunderstanding.
2006-10-23 06:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule in marriage: No hitting, biting or kicking. Now call him and apologize for slapping him. Then you both agree to forget what was said and move on. Do not bring up the hurtful words again, in fact talk to your partner and together come what with things you can't say to each other again. Some things you just can't say, it is hurtful and you can't take it back.
2006-10-23 06:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I unfortunately don't know the circumstances of your fight. You need to give him time to cool down, as do you. Saying hurtful words and slapping is a very immature way to fight. You both need to do everything you can to ask for forgiveness and accept the other's apology. Then you need to use this as a good lesson. Arguing can be constructive in a marriage but you must NEVER let it get the point that you say ugly things and strike one another. That is fighting dirty and nothing good comes from it.
2006-10-23 06:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it definitely should've been handled in a less destructive way. I suggest u give him space to cool off. After that, try to make amends and apologize for hitting him and the next time when u two get into an argument, learn to discuss your differences in a more rational manner. Resorting to hitting is not going to solve anything.
2006-10-23 06:25:26 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh he will come back and you can make-up, and you both need to apologize to each other. Every one gets into arguments and says some nasty things sometimes. You can start the ball rolling by calling him and apologizing for slapping him, then apologizing for the hurtful words and he will probably do the same back to you and everything will be back to normal........Good Luck....
2006-10-23 06:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you both need to seek out a counselor and seek out a little anger management classes too. Instead of escalating things and talking you shouted and yelled and used physical abuse to get your point across. IS IT WORKING 4 YOU? If you can honestly say it is you really have a serious problem.
chill out---give each other a few days to calm down where both of you can sit down and discuss things like rational human beings.
2006-10-23 06:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life people misunderstand each other so the only way to correct this is to talk. You will be fine!
2006-10-23 06:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a misunderstanding just talk to him, apoliogize for hitting him, and try to work it out. If hes not willing to work out an understanding then hes the one losing out.
2006-10-23 06:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by masterdvrsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry, in no time you will turn into a vengeful snake and seek to take him for all he is worth.
All women go into this mode, if a man dumps them they automatically seek revenge and will do anything to get back at him...luck for you the courts are all set up to help you complete this task....
File for divorce, claim abandonment, ask for alimony, child support, etc. etc. and take him to the bank...you will have no feelings of guilt because your female wiring will kick in and make you see nothing but revenge and cash....in fact you will also see his money and rightfully your money.
2006-10-23 06:15:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋